what to do when u always i mean ALWAYS have bad things going on in your life and u just wanna talk about it with your friends but u cant talk abt it because it wld overwhelm them too and wld cause u to fall out? and it feels like the only thing u talk abt are bad things but friends are supposed to wanna know abt ur life but u dont have anything rlly good to talk abt
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I rant to ai. Rant to therapist but w the aim of overcoming the problem. Only rant to frens once in a long time or else they will leave depending on the fs
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Nice that you’ve friends.
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What is fs? Yea its better to rant to therapist, but its kind of hard to rant at Ai, they just coph paste ans
i would wanna know all about my friends’ lives, good and especially the bad, so they wont have to go through it all alone!!
when i share with my friends bad thing, most of the time i know they cant help me, but just them listening to me and me knowing im not all on my own alr helps me feel a little better!!
anddd nonetheless i think youre right, probably good to sprinkle in some moments in your life youre thankful for, for example letting your friends know after you’ve ranted, how their presence meant something to you :')
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It’s good to hear you have a group of friends but sounds like you are worried that you might burden them or overwhelm them. But it also sounds so tiring for you to have this experience of always having bad things going on in life. It makes sense that you’d like to tell your friends about it and receive some support.
Would you have multiple avenues of sharing? For example, if you told friend group A about a problem you face, perhaps a group that could empathise with the specific problem. And another friend group for other issues.
It may also be helpful to just ask your friends if they want to hear about your problems. It does mean sometimes, they might say they don’t have the space at the moment. But it also means both you and your friends can learn to negotiate about when is a good time, what might help both to support each other, and keep a healthy friendship!
And of course, if some external help is good, there are spaces like this to also rant or receive some support. Even though we may not be personal friends, there are people to reply and support. If therapy is also an option, that is worth considering as well.
Take care @kieleypie and you are not alone
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Hi @kieleypie,
I’m really sorry you’re feeling this way. It sounds incredibly tough to constantly face challenges and feel like you can’t share them with your friends. It’s understandable to worry about overwhelming them, but it’s also important to have an outlet for your feelings. Sometimes, finding a balance between sharing your struggles and also talking about lighter topics can help. You might consider talking to a trusted friend about how you’re feeling and see if they can offer support without feeling overwhelmed. It’s okay to lean on your friends, and true friends will want to be there for you, even during tough times.
If you feel like you can’t talk to your friends about everything, it might be helpful to seek support from other sources as well. This could be a therapist, counselor, or even a support group where you can freely express your feelings without worrying about overwhelming others. Additionally, finding small moments of joy or activities that bring you some relief can help balance out the tough times. Remember, it’s okay to ask for help and to take care of yourself. You’re not alone, and there are people who care about you and want to support you.
Hi kieleypie,
I understand that it seems like you constantly have bad things in life. I want to assure you that your are not alone on this, and all of us go through tough periods in life. Please hold on, this moment in life in pass. Firstly, i believe that your true friends would want to be there for you - to listen to you and support you. Perhaps you can ask them if they are okay to hear about some personal problems first, to prevent feelings of being overwhelmed.
Perhaps you might also find it helpful to keep a gratitute journal - you can pen down anything that you are grateful for. It can be as small as having a good lunch, or being able to see a good friend that day.
Please stay strong! And take care of yourself
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Hello, I understand that it can be overwhelming when you cannot share with your friends your struggles. Perhaps you can consider talking to your parents or relatives? Alternatively, you are more than welcome to chat here 
Rooting for you 