Hi everyone!
I hear you, talking to parents about personal stuff can feel awkward, frustrating, or even downright impossible. Maybe you worry they won’t get it, or that they’ll overreact. Maybe you’ve tried before and it didn’t go well. But honestly, communication is a skill, and like any skill, it can get easier with practice.
Here are a few tips to help you talk to your parents (or any trusted adult) in a way that actually helps you feel heard:
Start with “I” Statements – Instead of saying, “You never listen to me,” try, “I feel unheard when I try to talk, and I really want us to understand each other.” This shifts the conversation from blame to connection.
Pick the Right Time – Timing matters! Bringing up a deep conversation when they’re stressed or distracted (or when you’re upset) might not go well. Try finding a moment when everyone is calm.
Be Honest, But Keep It Simple – You don’t have to explain everything at once. Start small. “Hey, I’ve been feeling overwhelmed lately, and I could use some support” is a good opener that invites a conversation instead of shutting it down.
Know That Their First Reaction Might Not Be Their Final One – Parents aren’t perfect. They might need time to process, especially if what you’re sharing is unexpected. Give them a chance to come back to the conversation later.
If Talking Feels Too Hard, Try Writing It Down – Not everyone feels comfortable saying things out loud. A text, letter, or voice note can sometimes be an easier way to get your thoughts across.
Remember, communication takes practice. It won’t always be perfect, and that’s okay. The goal isn’t to have the perfect conversation, but it’s to start one.
What’s the hardest part about talking to your parents? Drop your thoughts below!