I’ve recently been a victim to a job scam, and lost around 10k to it. Looking back, signs were obvious and I had my guard up at the beginning, but the initial profit was so sweet that I continued and ended up with this. Fortunately, i can recover financially from this although it will take more some time, as I still have my full time job.
Despite knowing this, I feel like a failure. Only my mum is aware that I got scam, and we are not planning to diverge this to other family members and friends. If she had not overheard my convo with the scammer, I would have lost $35k instead. Her tears woke me up and the guilt have been eating me alive.
I know I need to accept that this had happened and move on with it. I tried to be positive too, and told her after the police took my statement that it almost became $35k if she had not interven. I just need to suck it up at my current job and I can earn back this amount in another 8 mths or so, if there’s not other changes to our current life and we maintain the same lifestyle as before.
I know all of these, but emotionally I am unable to cope. I find myself with burst if emotions at time, telling myself how stupid i was and I randomly burst into tears when I know I’m alone. Me and my mum have not spoken about this at all, but I did caught her crying once or twice when she thought she’s alone.
How do we emotionally recover from this?
Hi @safekoala9573, I hear how big of a toll this has taken on you. While it is possible to recover the amount lost, it is not as easy to undo the emotional damage this situation has caused. I can sense that the both of you have been experiencing many mixed feelings - guilt, frustration, sadness. You mentioned that you and your mum have not spoken about this. Do you think that having a conversation would help clear the air and allow the both of you to slowly move on? This situation can act as a warning, a sign for you to better educate yourself on how to spot such scams and avoid them in the future. Learning to be forgiving towards yourself is not something that is easy, but this can happen with time and patience. I hope that you can clear the air with your mum and learn to forgive yourself, taking this whole experience as a blessing in disguise to look back on, instead of berating yourself. Take care 
Dear @safekoala9573
I thank you for reaching out. Firstly, I think that it is only human to have fallen for this job scam, and I believe many others reading this can identify with your painful experience.
Do be kind to yourself as you go through this period. I believe emotional recovery will take time. Process the grief at your own pace and allow your mom to grieve too. Sometimes speaking to a counsellor can help you process the pain your mom and you are in. The counsellor can also help you identify and address certain thinking patterns or beliefs that you may have developed which are unhelpful. Additionally, the counsellor can help you practise ways to manage difficult thoughts, emotions and sensations, and gradually I believe practice can reduce the grip these have on you. 