Hi @Tigeagfreeflly,
Thank you for sharing what you’re going through—I can hear how much this situation at work is weighing on you, and it’s incredibly challenging to be in an environment where you feel like you’re being judged and talked about, especially when it feels like people are ganging up against you. It’s no wonder you’re feeling overwhelmed by it all.
It’s true that ignoring other people’s opinions is easier said than done. When we feel targeted or judged, it’s natural for those feelings to stick with us, and it’s hard to shake them off, even when we know that we can’t control what others do. It sounds like this has been happening for a while, and it’s taken a toll on your mental and emotional well-being.
One thing that might help is finding ways to ground yourself and protect your peace of mind, even when things around you feel toxic. When you notice those familiar signs that something might be wrong or that you’re being talked about, it’s important to have some strategies in place to help you stay centered and not get pulled into the negativity.
For example, you might try focusing on your breathing for a few moments, taking deep breaths in and out to help calm your mind. Sometimes, just stepping away from the situation—whether it’s taking a walk, going to a different space, or even just mentally distancing yourself—can give you the space you need to not let those negative thoughts take root.
Another approach could be to remind yourself of what you know to be true about yourself, rather than what others might say. You mentioned that it’s challenging to avoid letting other people’s words affect you, and that is entirely understandable. But it can be helpful to counteract those negative voices with positive affirmations about your own worth and your own truth. You know who you are and what you stand for, and that’s what matters most.
It might also be helpful to think about whether there are any supportive colleagues or allies in your workplace who you can lean on. Even just having one person who understands what you’re going through and can offer support can make a big difference in how you experience your work environment.
And lastly, I encourage you to find outlets outside of work that help you release the stress and frustration that builds up. Whether it’s through exercise, hobbies, spending time with loved ones, or talking to someone you trust, it’s important to have ways to let go of the negativity so that it doesn’t build up inside you.
You’re not alone in feeling this way, and it’s okay to acknowledge that this is hard. You deserve to work in a space where you feel respected and valued, and it’s okay to seek out ways to protect your mental health in the meantime. If these feelings continue to weigh heavily on you, it might also be worth considering talking to a counselor who can help you develop strategies to cope with this situation and maintain your well-being.
Take care and keep in mind that other people’s actions or words don’t determine your value. You have the strength to navigate this, and we are here to support you in finding the peace and balance you deserve.