Hey @user1329,
Thank you for sharing how you’re feeling right now. It sounds like you’ve been carrying a lot on your shoulders, and I can see why it feels overwhelming. School can be really tough, especially when it feels like the environment isn’t supportive and you’re not connecting with the people around you. It’s important to acknowledge that what you’re going through is real, and it’s okay to feel frustrated and unmotivated at times.
Let’s start with your assignments. I know it feels like a mountain to climb with only three days left, but the key here is to take it one small step at a time. Rather than thinking about all 11 assignments, can you focus on just starting one? Even if it’s just for 10 or 15 minutes. Often, the hardest part is getting started, but once you begin, the momentum will build, and you’ll feel a little better about making progress. How would you feel about setting a small goal, like finishing just one task today? It doesn’t need to be perfect—just starting will help lift some of the weight off your shoulders.
Now, about school. It sounds like the social environment is really draining for you. It’s exhausting to feel like you don’t fit in, and the gossip and judgment from others can make it even harder to focus on what’s important. One thing I want to remind you of is that how people treat you often has more to do with them than it does with you. It’s easy to internalize the negative energy from others, but you don’t have to take it on as your own burden. You are more than what they say or think.
I am aware that it can be challenging to find motivation when there is so much negativity around you, but it’s crucial to consider why you are in school in the first place. What are some things that you’ve been good at or enjoyed in the past? Even if school feels miserable right now, there may be subjects or interests you can reconnect with. Finding just one small thing you’re passionate about or interested in can help give you a reason to keep going, even if the social side of school isn’t great.
If being around people at school is really difficult, it might help to take some time to reframe your focus. You don’t have to like everyone, and they don’t have to like you, but can you focus on what you want to get out of school? It could be as simple as wanting to finish your studies so you have more options in the future, or maybe working toward something that interests you outside of school. Shifting your focus to your own goals—no matter how small—can help reduce the frustration of dealing with the people around you.
I also hear you when you say you don’t feel like you have any goals or motivation. That’s okay. Sometimes, when life feels heavy and things aren’t going the way we want, it’s hard to feel driven. Instead of putting pressure on yourself to find big goals right away, how about focusing on small, achievable steps? The more small wins you get, the more momentum you’ll build. It’s okay if you don’t know exactly what you want right now—sometimes, it takes time to figure that out.
Lastly, I think it could really help to talk to someone about how you’re feeling. Whether it’s a counselor or a trusted adult, having someone who can listen and support you might make it easier to navigate these feelings of frustration and loneliness. You don’t have to carry all of this on your own.
So for now, let’s start small. What’s one assignment you can work on for 10 minutes today? And how can you give yourself a little bit of credit for pushing through, even when it feels really hard? You’ve got this, and with small steps, things can start to feel a little more manageable.
Take care, and we’re here if you need to talk more.