I can’t seem to function

I’m not sure if its stress or anxiety or what it is but in the last year or so, I’ve faced difficulties in doing my tasks.

From working to studying, it’s so hard. I searched up many things like how to fight task paralysis, how to stop scrolling, how to be productive but I know something is wrong and I clearly need help.

I did well in polytechnic, I was very disciplined and focused but now I’m struggling to even start on my assignments in university. I know there are deadlines but I can’t seem to start. I already failed 3 modules as I had either not submitted my assignments, or skipped the exams. I feel like my future will be destroyed if I stay this way, but I really don’t know how to help myself anymore…

I have unhealthy habits like scrolling on social media and gaming, and I find myself stress eating in the middle of the night but even if I don’t game or scroll, i find myself blank spacing in front of my computer not doing anything productive.

Dear 1187,

Sounds like you have not been feeling like yourself for quite some time now and have been trying your best to deal with your challenges on your own without much success. Clearly, you feel in your gut that something is wrong and it’s really great that you’re acknowledging your struggles and are open to receiving help! Wonder if you have considered approaching your University’s counselling service for some assistance? I understand that all universities in Singapore have student assistance programmes and trained counsellors who will be able to guide you in addressing these issues. They may be able to help you:

  • Identify underlying causes of your struggles

  • Develop coping strategies for stress and anxiety

  • Improve time management and productivity skills

  • Address unhealthy habits and develop healthier ones

  • Work through feelings of overwhelm and self-doubt

Remember, seeking help is a sign of strength, and it’s okay to ask for support. You’ve shown discipline and focus before, and with the right guidance, I believe you can overcome these challenges and thrive in your studies and beyond. Keep in mind that small steps can lead to significant progress. Start by scheduling a consultation with a University therapist or counselor and take it from there. You got this!

All the best!