hi just ranting because i’ve been frustrated. im going to preface this by saying i have a boyfriend, and im not interested in anyone else.
i’m friends with this guy and a girl, and they are a couple. i’ve known the both of them for two years, but only got closer to them after working on a project together. I was closer to the girl first, and even got closer to the guy. and at this point i feel like i’m closer to him more than her.
i really like them both as friends and i enjoy being their friend but i feel like eventually i would have to pick a side which is something that i do not want to do.
im close to the girl in a way where we are comfortable with ranting to each other, and sending each other resources for out school work, we’ve gone out together, and with our other friend as well. that’s about it.
im close to the guy in a way where he would constantly buy me snacks everytime he sees me, pay for my meals, and some other things, and i have never asked for any of it. im sure he’s a really good friend as he is actually concerned about my physical health and emotional well-being. he would want me to vet his works, we call almost everyday, and would play pc games together. i dont have many friends, and i genuinely enjoy his company.
it’s also sad to know that some or my classmates thought that we were having an affair
is it worth to mention that he doesnt do all those when his gf is present? his gf doesnt know anything about and i feel bad because she is my friend. and it feels weird that he’s hiding things from her.
she was even complaining to him (and obviously he told me) that i asked him about school work, and didnt ask her. i mean to me, i feel closer to him, so i asked him. that’s all. at some point she has made it obvious that something was going on.
the guy complained that i don’t text him first (???) but proceeded to say that he can’t reply me if he’s next to her (???). which tells me one thing (my assumption)
- they probably had a discussion about him texting me, if not why would he say that? there must be a reason right ??
i do not know what boundaries they have set in their relationship. however i am aware as he said that he would not cut off his girl besties even if the gf wanted him to. just saying this because he refers to me as his bestie.
i do not want to be the one to tell her things he has done for me. its just going to eventually ruin our friendship, and it definitely has the potential to ruin their relationship. and worse if she finds out about all of this….
either she’s gonna ask me a pick a side
or
shes gonna just cut off contact with me, and probably ask him to do so as well, not sure if he would as he said he would never cut off his besties, and he has told her that as well…what they want to do is still ultimately their choice.
i dont know what to do