I dont feel comfortable with my brother

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recently, my brother (8 y/o) has been really touchy w me. it makes me especially uncomfy as we share a toilet and his door can’t lock properly. a few times he’s tried to look at me while i shower or change. sometimes we play together and when i’m distracted he’ll try to move his hands nearer to me/ “accidentally” touch me in THOSE areas. its made me refrain from physical touch and to the point where i am very reluctant to let anyone touch me, including my parents. in addition i also caught him searching inappropriate things online and i think something is wrong w him.
(this doesnt help my current mental state i js need advice on what to do)

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Hi @kiryn

Thank you for bringing up this difficult topic. I’m concerned about your safety and well-being. Your brother’s behavior is inappropriate and potentially harmful. Please address this immediately.

Immediate Action

  1. Talk to a trusted adult: Parent, guardian, or another relative.
  2. Set boundaries: Clearly communicate your discomfort to your brother.
  3. Secure your space: Request a lock for your door or alternative arrangements.

Addressing Brother’s Behavior

  1. Professional help: Child psychologist or therapist for your brother.
  2. Parental guidance: Educate your parents about appropriate boundaries.
  3. Monitor online activity: Install parental controls.

Supporting Your Mental Health

  1. Counselling: Address anxiety, discomfort, and reluctance to physical touch.
  2. Self-care: Prioritize relaxation techniques.

Do Prioritise your safety, well-being, and emotional wellbeing. You are precious and what is currently going on is not healthy. Do take action soon. :heart:

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hello @kiryn
that does NOT sound ok at all. you shouldnt be tolerating this even if its your brother. its especially weird because its your brother… the next time such things happen, try to set firm boundaries, tell him no! and explain why his actions make you uncomfortable. your brother might not understand why his actions are wrong since he is still young, so its important to explain it to him. and most importantly please get your parents involved in this as well. let your parents know in detail everything that your brother is doing and ask them to discipline him. as for yourself, do talk to someone, whether its a trusted adult or a friend, if you need to. situations like this can be stressful but there is absolutely no shame in talking about it. Your feelings and personal boundaries matter, so i hope you take action soon and please take care of yourself! :heart: