My parents like short hair. It reminded them of how “adorable” and “cute” i was as a kid maybe now i’m a teen and i growing older each day they regret and miss the time when i was a child. but honestly it’s not my fault, during my preteens they were always their phones and working overtime. i understand if they are busy but even they have gotten more toxic n emotionally abusive. thus our relationship soured (apparently they blamed it on me). so they think that by keeping my hair short it is a way to remind them of who i was as a child rather than who i am now.
But i absolutely DESPISE AND AM DISGUSTED by the look of having short hair. i once had silky long jet black hair which was my best feature and most prized possession but now it’s my biggest insecurity. In many parts of the world having long luscious hair was the beauty standards and so was mine. short hair just rly doesn’t look good on me and it’s not hard to manage. period. My hair is rly straight so it doesn’t require maintenance but it’s just another excuse they came up with.
i used to be rly confident of my looks but now i can’t even look in the mirror or go outside without spending more than half an hour on makeup
I do buy extensions but they are just simply uncomfortable and my parents wld probably throw them away if they knew
i think this dread of having short hair was when i was a kid i was often ostracised or i rarely had any friends was cuz my personality was pretty rough and “violent”??But now i guess i’ve i gotten more courtesy i’m better but i still associate the trauma of being ostracised with short hair.
I’m really sorry to hear that you’re going through such a difficult time. It is completely understandable to feel upset about your hair and the way your parents are treating you. Your feelings are valid, and it’s important to acknowledge them.
It seems like your parents are holding onto memories of you as a child, but it is important for them to recognize and respect who you are now.
Your hair is a significant part of your identity, and it’s natural to feel strongly about it if it gives you confidence. If possible, try to have an open conversation with your parents about how their actions are affecting you. Explain to them why having long hair is important to you, and how it impacts your self esteem.
In the meantime, focus on self care and activities that make you feel good about yourself. On the other hand, know that your worth is not tied to your hair or appearance. You are valuable and unique just as you are.
hey @user1717 , i’m so sorry for what you’ve gone through - it must be so frustrating to not be able to decide what you want, especially when it comes to something so personal like your long hair, which clearly means a lot to you
it is completely valid to feel hurt and angry about what happened. even though they may have pushed the blame to you, it doesn’t mean your emotions aren’t valid. Your parents must cherish what you guys had when you were younger. however, they may not realise that holding onto the version of you in the past can actually be really painful for you now.
when you’re ready, having an open and honest conversation with your parents could be helpful - you could express how your hairstyle is part of your identity and having long hair makes you feel confident.
In the meantime, be kind to yourself and focus on other things that make bring you comfort and joy! these could include trying a new style, listening to music or other activities that remind you of your strengths!
i also want to encourage you that you are so more than how you look Your empathy, resilience and maturity is what truly defines you You’ve already shown so much courage by opening up and that’s something to be proud of! Stay strong, and I’m rooting for you!!
i also had short hair for some time and was going through a rough period then, so i can relate to how you feel i associate having that hairstyle with all those unpleasant memories and everytime i look back on it i cringe a little
the discomfort you feel is really valid, especially since many of us see hairstyle as such an important part of ourselves. the tension between you and your parents doesn’t sound easy either, it must be really emotionally-exhausting for everyone. it’s still not right for them to be toxic and put all the blame on you though
i wanna encourage you to engage in some relaxing activities and hobbies, or even do some journaling to pen down your feelings and thoughts, especially if you feel like you aren’t ready to confide in your parents and/or friends
hope your situation will improve soon and please take care of yourself in the meantime! you got this!!
Hey, I’m sorry to hear what you are experiencing. It must be so frustrating being unable to decide on what you want for yourself, especially something that clearly means a lot to you. It is completely understandable to feel upset about your hair and how your parents have been treating you.
If possible, you can try having open conversations with your parents and explain the importance of your hair to you and how their actions have been affecting your feelings. At the same time, engage in activities that make you feel good about yourself. Your worth is not solely tied to your hair or appearance only, its you as a whole!
Your empathy, resilience and maturity is what truly defines you 
You’ve already shown so much courage by opening up and that’s something to be proud of! Stay strong, and I’m rooting for you!!
i associate having that hairstyle with all those unpleasant memories and everytime i look back on it i cringe a little
