Guys if both my parents hate me and didn’t want to talk to me, am i considered as an orphan now cuz what the ■■■■
I had an argument with my dad a few months over his stupid temper and all he does is yell in my face cuz i was drawing so slow for my O level art (i was the first person to finish it) and whenever i tried to explain for myself and said i also studied at the same time he just continued yelling, saying im making excuses
And now my mom know NOTHING bout what happened and end up siding with her stupid husband and now she force me to talk to my dad and she wont bother talking to me again
Both of them tell me to die multiple times so maybe i should (can any orphanage take me at least)
Hi @userrr87398 , I’m so sorry to hear what you’re going through. I can imagine it hurts even more when both your parents don’t seem to be listening or supporting you. I hope that you know this is not a reflection of your worth or value as a person. Their reactions are coming from their own issues, and it doesn’t mean you’re deserving of this treatment.
Do you have someone you can trust, such as a friend, a teacher, or even a school counsellor? Thought it might be good just to have someone listen to you and understand what you’re going through. You’re not alone, and I’m sure there are people who care about you and want to help you through this.
Hello @userrr87398! Thank you for writing your experience here.
I want you to know that your emotions are valid and you are not alone. I’m sorry you are going through this. Your parents’ current treatment of you seems quite terrible, and it makes sense that you would feel upset, perplexed, and even despondent after this treatment.
You’re doing your best with everything—your education, your artwork, even attempting to defend yourself—so it is unfair that you feel unsupported. It is no less genuine or important just because they are not appreciating your effort and who you are. And even while I realise it’s difficult to feel that way when those close to you show little support, it surely does not determine your value.
Although it might be somewhat alienating to feel as if you lack that support, kindly keep in mind that there are people who love you and can support you. An excellent first step is getting in touch with a trustworthy adult, school counsellor, or even a friend. Speaking with someone who is qualified to assist young people in difficult family circumstances may also be beneficial; many organisations provide helplines or chat lines where you may obtain quick assistance and work through problems.
If you need to talk to someone, feel free to come on this platform to rant or drop your thoughts here.
It sounds like things at home have become really painful, especially when you’re working so hard with your studies and managing everything for your art and exams. Feeling as though you don’t have the support or understanding you need—especially from those closest to you—can be incredibly isolating.
Sometimes, when emotions and conflicts build up, especially with people we care deeply about, it’s normal to feel like things are slipping out of control. Remember that your feelings about this situation are valid; It’s absolutely okay to need someone to recognize how you’re feeling without judging you or telling you what to do. You deserve that space.
If you ever feel overwhelmed, taking even a few deep breaths or reaching out to someone who can listen might offer some relief. Speaking with a counselor could also be a helpful way to explore these feelings and find ways to feel safer and more supported. And in the meantime, please remember that you’re not alone; there are people who care about what you’re going through and who want to see you feel okay.
Take it one step at a time, and know that sharing your thoughts here was a brave first step. Please keep reaching out…
Hey @userrr87398 , I was wondering, would you be able to reach out to your school counsellor to support you through this difficult time? Meanwhile, you do continue letting us know how you are via this thread. We’ll try to help or give a listening ear!
@userrr87398 I understand how disheartening that must feel, especially when it seems like nothing changes no matter what you do. While it’s true that we can’t control or change how others behave, what we can do is focus on ourselves—our feelings, our responses, and our well-being.
If the school counsellor didn’t help much before, perhaps you could give it another try, or even explore other resources, like call helplines. Sometimes it takes time to find the right person or approach that works for you .
When was the last time you did something just for you—something that made you feel even a little bit better or helped you relax? If it’s been a while, maybe now’s a good time to do so. It doesn’t have to be anything big—it could be listening to music, drawing for fun (not for school), going for a walk, or just taking a moment to breathe and be kind to yourself.
You deserve to take care of yourself, and if it helps, do continue to keep sharing here!!
I’m really sorry to hear that you’re feeling this way. It sounds like you’re going through a really tough time with both your parents, and that can feel incredibly isolating. It’s painful when the people who are supposed to support and understand you don’t seem to be doing that, especially after an argument where you felt unheard.
It’s completely valid to feel upset and frustrated. You were trying your best and it’s tough when that effort doesn’t get recognized. It’s also hard when one parent doesn’t understand your side of things and seems to just side with the other. Remember, your feelings are important, and it’s okay to express them. Try to find someone you trust to talk to, whether it’s a friend or a teacher, who might be able to help you navigate this situation. You deserve to feel supported and understood.
With that said, I do feel concerned when you mentioned about your suicidal ideations. While we are here to provide you with the support you need, do note that Let’s Talk is not a crisis platform that’s monitored 24/7. If you require immediate crisis assistance, please get in touch with SOS at 1767, or call the IMH Helpline at 6389 2222.
I think, you should thrive if you know you’re good at something. Because when you thrive, and look for people in the art scene to relate to and express through art. You find community. People who resonate with you.
And when you thrive, you find yourself in a place where you can find more in life. E.g. fulfillment and happiness in people who express the way you do. I suggest going to Aliwal Art Centre, or other art events to see how other artists that face pain to find how you can also express yourself.
Your parents probably think scolding you is effective at helping you excel. It is abusive in my view. Ignore them. Maybe that’s just what you need to do. Do your best to excel for yourself. One day you may come to understand why they feel that this is the best way to engage with you.
! Thank you for writing your experience here.