Sooo my therapist informed me that in 2 months she would be leaving and on our next appointment she will hopefully want to introduce me to the person taking over my case.
TBH, I was trying to process that information then hence I didn react then. Since then, this piece of news has been weighing on my mind and I feel like stopping my sessions all together. As the topic states, I rather initiate the breakup. Also, I finally had a good rapport with this therapist and trust with her, and now she’s leaving?
I’m honestly afraid that the new person will suck and also I do not wish to repeat myself all over again.
Am I weird?
Hi @Wildflower,
I read what you wrote carefully. What stands out is the fear that shows up just as things were starting to feel more stable. That timing matters.
It also makes sense that you didn’t respond much when you first heard the news. Sometimes information like this takes time to land. The reaction comes later, once you’re alone with it.
This isn’t something to brush off or explain away. It’s an adjustment you’re being asked to make. Even if this situation isn’t exactly the same as what you’ve been through before, the feelings can still feel familiar especially if past changes or losses didn’t end well.
Wanting to stop therapy first doesn’t mean you don’t care about the work. Often it’s a way of protecting yourself from another break that you didn’t choose. Leaving on your own terms can feel safer than waiting for the ending to happen.
The two months’ notice is a chance that can be used to talk about what this change means for you, emotionally, not just practically. This part of the process matters too. It’s not about forcing a decision right now, but about understanding how you respond to change and loss.
You mentioned:
- this news weighing on your mind
- not wanting to repeat yourself
- worrying about the next therapist
It might help to slow down and notice:
- what thoughts show up when this comes up
- what your body does in those moments
- what reaction follows pulling back, shutting down, wanting control
That kind of noticing is part of emotional regulation. It’s not separate from the work you’ve already been doing. You’re responding to a relationship that mattered to you and is now changing.
Perhaps for now, if you are ready, would you tell your therapist what this news stirred up for you?