Sooo my therapist informed me that in 2 months she would be leaving and on our next appointment she will hopefully want to introduce me to the person taking over my case.
TBH, I was trying to process that information then hence I didn react then. Since then, this piece of news has been weighing on my mind and I feel like stopping my sessions all together. As the topic states, I rather initiate the breakup. Also, I finally had a good rapport with this therapist and trust with her, and now she’s leaving?
I’m honestly afraid that the new person will suck and also I do not wish to repeat myself all over again.
I read what you wrote carefully. What stands out is the fear that shows up just as things were starting to feel more stable. That timing matters.
It also makes sense that you didn’t respond much when you first heard the news. Sometimes information like this takes time to land. The reaction comes later, once you’re alone with it.
This isn’t something to brush off or explain away. It’s an adjustment you’re being asked to make. Even if this situation isn’t exactly the same as what you’ve been through before, the feelings can still feel familiar especially if past changes or losses didn’t end well.
Wanting to stop therapy first doesn’t mean you don’t care about the work. Often it’s a way of protecting yourself from another break that you didn’t choose. Leaving on your own terms can feel safer than waiting for the ending to happen.
The two months’ notice is a chance that can be used to talk about what this change means for you, emotionally, not just practically. This part of the process matters too. It’s not about forcing a decision right now, but about understanding how you respond to change and loss.
You mentioned:
this news weighing on your mind
not wanting to repeat yourself
worrying about the next therapist
It might help to slow down and notice:
what thoughts show up when this comes up
what your body does in those moments
what reaction follows pulling back, shutting down, wanting control
That kind of noticing is part of emotional regulation. It’s not separate from the work you’ve already been doing. You’re responding to a relationship that mattered to you and is now changing.
Perhaps for now, if you are ready, would you tell your therapist what this news stirred up for you?
That kind of news can land quietly at first… and then get heavier the more it sinks in. It makes sense that this has been sitting with you.
You’ve built trust with her, and that doesn’t happen easily. When someone who’s been part of your inner world is about to step away, it can feel less like a change and more like a loss. Almost like the ground shifting under something that finally felt steady. It can even feel a bit like being left, even when you understand why. There can be a quiet sadness in that too.
Wanting to be the one to end it first also makes a lot of sense. Sometimes taking the lead can feel safer, especially when you’ve already done so much emotional work to get comfortable.
And the thought of starting over with someone new — repeating your story, rebuilding that feeling of safety, developing that understanding — is exhausting just to think about. There’s nothing weird about feeling that. Having to tell your story again can feel exposing and draining. A lot of people would feel something like this in your place.
If you feel able, it might be worth bringing this up with her too, not to fix or change the situation, but so you don’t have to carry these feelings on your own while it’s happening. Whatever you decide about continuing, your reaction here feels very human, especially in something this vulnerable.
If you’d like to share, what part of this has been weighing on you the most?