went to a party today but it just doesn’t feel the same without my ex gf (she also happens to be my therapist and soothes me). we used to travel together but recently broke up. it tears me further when I saw pictures of her and other girls together. we used to share so much together and it hurts. just the other day I bumped into her at another event but she ignored me. she was with another lady whom she claims as her sister. she already has 2 sisters and I wonder why is she playing with my feelings. as her 49th birthday is coming up soon, I do not know whether to congratulate her as I really want to speak to her. we have mutual friends and I am not sure if they are aware that we have broken up as things will be very awkward. please help. im depressed.
hello, thank you for sharing. it must be difficult to go through this and your feelings are valid. perhaps you can take a break from social media and go to engage in your hobbies, or even go on long walks in the nature park (helps me to recollect my thoughts). rooting for you op!
thank you for sharing @Windon567 . it mustn’t have been easy for you to go through a break up and it does sound like it made you feel a sense of loss in your support system too. since you mentioned that there are mutual friends in your circles, i can only assume that this makes you feel stuck too. like you can’t openly share about how you feel since they’re her friends too. i do wonder if you have other friends to confide in, perhaps they can also share their perspective on this situation.
thanks @thursday and @carnello for the advice. was at an event today again where she would normally go. but she together with our usual group of friends didn’t turn up. maybe she’s avoiding me and our mutual friends are already aware of it. that’s fine. guess she is more afraid of meeting me than the other way round. my conscience is clear so I am not worried even if there’s gossip.
it’s nice to hear that you feel at peace with the situation and although gossip isn’t great, it doesn’t faze you. hope you’ve also been taking time to process your own emotions and find other ways to receive support. have you reached out to your friends about this too?
not really necessary since I’ve moved on already and it doesn’t affect me. those strong emotions have hence subsided. im ready to meet new friends and not waste time with low grade people.
Hello @Windon567 thank you for sharing this here. I can imagine how painful this breakup must be, especially with your ex-girlfriend also being your therapist. It makes complete sense that you’re hurting, given how much you shared and the memories you created together. I can also understand how her ignoring you might make it feel even more difficult.
It’s okay to feel this pain and take time to process it. Some people find that spending time on hobbies or connecting with friends and family can help, while others find speaking to a mental health professional supportive if it feels overwhelming. You’re already showing a lot of self-awareness and care for your own feelings, which is a really important step.
Hi CozyCompanion thanks for the encouragement and it really means a lot to me. besides continuing with what I would normally enjoy in terms of hobbies, and spending time with my family, I have also taken steps to recruit a new therapist. it has been progressing well so far and help is not far from reach. moreover, happiness is a state of mind and positivity molds reality. would choose to trust the process and take it as an enjoyable learning journey. it really helps having de fayth. amen. =)