I have been scared to admit that i had been having difficulties with socializing for quite a long time now because i’m scared what other people might think of me because of that. I dont know why but ever since the pandemic ended, it’s been so hard for me to talk and to connect with other people. I always try to start a conversation with people but it always seems to end with them only answering to my questions with short answers and thats it. I cant get along with people and everytime i see those same people at school, i just think of more questions to ask them. Then, when i do start to get along with someone, i always end up scared of doing something that would embarass me or make them think less of me. The anxiety in me would build up and affect my response to that person and would usually lead to the conversation ending awkwardly. Thats why i have such difficulty making friends nowadays. I’m even starting to compare myself to my other friend whos much more better socially. I hate this feeling and i just want to get along with people like normal.
Wat i did was just kept reading on how to connect w ppl thru conversation n keep trialing n erroring w ppl. Its not easy n im still struggling at some parts but some parts got easier. U r supposed to share about urself after u asked a qns n the person answered. Ur fear for embarrassment is another thing u have to work on too seperately. It takes a lot of effort n time but as ling as u wanna try to be better even if progressing slowly. Open to be frens
Hey @anonymous442 , it’s really great that you’ve noticed what’s going on and recognised how it’s affecting you. Acknowledging these feelings is an important step towards making positive changes and seeking the support you need. It shows strength and self-awareness, even if it doesn’t feel that way right now. Your desire for things to improve is a powerful motivator, and I truly believe that with time, patience, and self-compassion, you’ll find your way towards more comfortable and fulfilling social connections.
Perhaps it might help to start with small, low-pressure interactions where you don’t feel the need to perform or hold the conversation perfectly. Sometimes, simple shared activities with others—like study groups or a club—can give you common ground and take the focus off constant conversation. And know that many people likely feel similar anxieties and may even be appreciative of the effort you’re making, even if they’re not showing it openly. 
Progress may be slow, but it’s still progress, and it’s okay to take breaks or reach out for help along the way. Take it one step at a time, you can do it!!