I can’t tell if it’s because I internalise everything quietly, I’m not hyperactive or I’m a girl so people don’t take me as seriously but I suspect (not self diagnosing ) that I have ADD. My attention issues are genuinely so bad I can barely focus in class without daydreaming, drawing, spiralling or like thinking about something. And up to now I rarely read books because of my attention issues (and it’s sometimes hard for me to process long pages even if I’ve read it like my head wld go blank) . i always try to focus when I realise my lack of attention but it’s really hard for me to. Not to mention my horrible memory of a literal goldfish, like I’d think of something and a second later I forget. Additionally, I sometimes can’t sit still without fidgeting, spinning my pen. Plus it’s quite hard to mask neurodivergence and I’m always getting intense burnouts every week-2 months (v inconsistent). And as someone who is sensitive as hell too this lwk sucks cuz i struggle with emotional regulation too and sometimes I have to resort to unhealthy coping mechanisms. Worst part is that no one believes what I say or want to help me. My parents seen how I am, helped my siblings but not me (for some reasons they think I’m fully independent aside from financially)
i really think I should take these symptoms more seriously now because it’s been affecting my studies and mental health significantly. I just hope someone can give me advice or just listen cause everything has been lwk going downhill recently and my thoughts have been a little stupid
hey thereeee, that really sucks
im sorry your family doesnt seem to understand the help you need. i dont have much experience with diff ADD symptoms or disorders in general, but im here to listen if you need to vent. you’re really brave for wanting to share about this :”) wait out for the good days, stranger on the internet
Dear @crystalsss
Thank you for reaching out and sharing your struggles. Understandably you feel exhausted and frustrated because you have tried bringing up to discuss what you are going through but you have not been taken seriously.
Reading what you are currently struggling with such as focus, zoning out, memory, fidgeting, and burnout I sense your difficulties are fully valid. Whether it is ADD/ADHD or something else, I see that it is affecting your studies and mental health, and that warrants the need for further investigation and additional support.
May I recommend you keep a record of specific incidents, symptoms and difficulties you are facing. With this, reach out to your school counsellor or trusted school teacher requesting for help citing the distress experienced.
An alternative would be to reach out to the national mindline at 1771 and to speak to the counsellors on duty. They would be able to guide and connect you to the most appropriate support services. The service is available 24/7 so if you need immediate assistance, this option is suitable.
Please seek help soon, you fully deserve to be understood and supported as you navigate through this.![]()
The thing is that I’m honestly really scared to reach out for help and like it actually almost took me almost 1 n a half year to overcome my fear to actually come here to vent.. like genuinely I was staring at the link to mindline so many times just to delete the tab.. I honestly don’t really know how to reach out for help elsewhere like not even just school counselling. Plus I don’t think my parents let me anyway
I feel like they don’t really take me seriously enough especially medically/ mentally like I’ve told them about how I have really bad attention issues and asked them if I could check it out multiple times but they either said ok (but didn’t do anything) or dismiss it like saying “focus harder”, “you’ll grow out of it” “you’re not trying hard enough/you’re lazy” when I, honestly trying my best and yeah they think I’m overreacting almost every time)
oops I’m going off track but yeah I basically don’t really know who to trust since my teacher(s) already have a bad impression on me and I don’t trust them with anything personal / I don’t want to burden my friends / siblings have their own issues they deal with too but they have support I guess
Actually I’ve already written down all my symptoms several months ago (I lwk forgot where I put the paper) but maybe not incidents since these symptoms are like a daily thing (..?)
Thank you ![]()
and it actually took me almost two yrs to muster the courage to come up here to this website to vent though hahaa
Dear @crystalsss
Thank you sharing. I am glad you reached out here and I see it a good first step to getting help you need. Speaking to or texting the national mindline at 1771 is recommended. This hotline is staffed around the clock by non judgmental and knowledgeable counsellors who listen, guide and connect you to available and appropriate options. Please do not go through this alone. I believe discussing with counsellors will help you gain more clarity and confidence to reduce distress. ![]()