It’s my first time here and I’m not sure if I got all of the tags right. I don’t really know what’s wrong with me. It could be acads stress it could be stress related to relationships with my friends or any other things. I’ve been feeling quite down and exhausted but this feeling isn’t continuous it stays for a period of time and leaves for awhile before coming back again. I have also been experiencing on and off low appetite and find shows and music noisy (but I used to enjoy them). A lot of times I wonder if I’m just being dramatic cos I feel that my feelings aren’t justified esp when I have friends and family members who loves me deeply. Like everything in my life seems fine
Hi!!! It seems that you are starting to have disinterest with things that previously brought you joy, or things you like doing,… hmm and it seems that something might have caused this whole situation to start cascading? might it help if we delve into finding a root cause together?? I don’t think your feelings are unjustified or “dramatic” — i think you’re very much going through some tough times and this is okay, it gives us room to introspect on weeds that have grown to rot in the soil, so that we may pluck them out and have a healthier soil for growth. Maybe even replant with newer seeds and continuously water them to see a healthy sprout. It feels like while you have everything with you, friends, family and all, there’s still this feeling of some kind of void and emptiness? correct me if im wrong hehe. Do you think it might be related to identity?? THERES RLY nothing wrong with you, maybe at this stage you’re trying to figure out your footing and establishing small steps as you go and that’s okay. and maybe with identity, this had led to acads stress, or relationship problems? maybe expectations of yourself, self worth, comparison??? throwing out all these ideas to probe deeper and possibly help you identify why you feel this way? i hear u and i feel u! so dont worry, theres nothing wrong with u, we can always take it slow and work it out together if you’re willing!! :—))
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Hey @user9175. Thank you for sharing so openly and courageously, especially since it’s your first time here. I hear you. It sounds confusing and frustrating to not be able to pinpoint exactly why you’re feeling this way, especially when from the outside things seem “fine”. But your feelings are valid. The ups and downs, the exhaustion, even losing interest in things you once enjoyed are all real experiences, not just being “dramatic”. You don’t need a perfect reason to feel what you feel.
Sometimes our minds tell us we “shouldn’t” feel a certain way because we have enough or because others love us. But emotions don’t work like that. You can love and be loved, and still feel low. Both can exist at the same time. And often, it’s not about one big root cause, it could be little stresses piling up, or your body’s way of asking for rest and care.
Sometimes trying small grounding practices like journaling when the feelings come up, or taking short breaks away from noise, or listening to soothing music, or talking to someone who is safe and you can trust, or do some deep breathing exercises can make it easier to notice patterns and understand what your mind and body might need.
You’ve taken a brave step by writing this post. That shows you care about yourself enough to reach out and that’s something to be proud of.
You don’t have to figure everything out at once, okay? Even the small ways you care for yourself matter 
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Hi @user9175 thank you for sharing❤️ I think the fact that you are taking the time to acknowledge how you are feeling is a great step forward! Please know that it’s okay to feel down or sad even when things around you appear to be okay. Often the externalities don’t reflect what we are truly feeling or thinking internally. So don’t judge yourself for feeling that way kay💗 you are in no way being ungrateful simply because you are not feeling your best. Fluctuations in the our emotions is perfectly normal and we shouldn’t be obliged to feel happy and fine all the time even if things around us are.
Perhaps you can try journaling(I prefer typing on my phone hehe) your thoughts more often so you can see them more clearly. This might help you find perhaps the root issue?
You can also try speaking with your family members or friends 
But of course there is no rush to find the reason and even if you end up fining it, that’s okay too. You don’t need to ‘fix’ your emotions either because you’re allowed to just sit with your emotions and feel❤️You can just work towards acknowledging these emotions and being kind to yourself cuz you deserve that!
Feel free to share more kay:heart_hands: it’s a safe space
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Hey @user9175,
I want to acknowledge the strength it took to share what you’re going through. Opening up when you’re struggling takes real courage, and I see that in you
What you’re feeling - the frustration, the exhaustion - these are completely valid responses to whatever you’re facing. Please know that you’re not walking through this alone.
I understand you’re questioning whether you might be overreacting, especially when others around you seem to minimize what you’re experiencing from what you have shared. I want to mention that your feelings and experiences are real and valid, regardless of how others perceive them. Sometimes we ourselves have to listen to our inner voice. Our instincts might be telling us something important about our experiences, and that deserves to be honored. You don’t need anyone else’s permission to acknowledge what you’re going through.
There’s no timeline for understanding everything you’re feeling right now. Healing and clarity come at their own pace, and that’s perfectly okay. Be patient and compassionate with yourself as you navigate this. At the end of the day, there’s no right or no wrong, just what works for you.
You’re going to be okay. Sending you strength and support.
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Dear @user9175
Thank you for the honest sharing of what you are going through. You reaching out is a good first step in your journey to feel better.
I gather that you are juggling many important commitments, including school, friendships, and family. It is understandable that these multiple areas are all important, and are all vying for your attention and this could be contributing to stress, some of which could be hidden.
Being self aware, you are also noticing that you have been feeling a drop in motivation doing things you used to enjoy. These two are indicators that there is currently some dissatisfaction.How you are feeling is certainly valid, and happens, especially when we are pulled in all directions.
Do consider speaking to a school counsellor who can help you process what you are going through in a safe non judgemental manner.
It may also help to start keeping a small journal or notebook of these patterns: especially when the “down” periods come, how long they last, what’s happening around that time, and what helps improve these low periods. This record and reflection could give you background and data points on what’s feeding the fluctuations in mood you shared.
Please also consider taking steps to rebuild interest or find new interest to bring back joy in your life. Start small and celebrate your wins. Reach out to folks who you know genuinely and unconditional care for you for support.
Over time, there will be improvements so keep going aligning steps towards your desired direction. And continue reaching out here for support whenever needed. 