my friend group had a falling out which was bascially one of the members making a mountain out of a mole hill and it escalated so much that people started taking sides. half of us stuck together while the other half stuck with each other. the person who started ghosting one of us suffers from mental health stuff but honestly i didn’t want to say anything to them but i do too it’s just that i’m much more secretive about mine while they are very open about it and it makes me frustrated that this person uses their mental health as an excuse/way out for a lot of things (especially when it’s school-related). i suffer too and it affects me so much that i spend most of my time online in my room to avoid reality but i still do my part for work. this person keeps saying they are in a bad place and i feel so upset. i’m struggling too but i know what priorities are. i can’t even confront them because they have blocked me on every platform. and if you’re wondering, no i didn’t say all this to them because i don’t want to hurt their feelings. they started ghosting me and blocking me first. for no reason. i think it’s because they hate one of the members in our friend group (7 people in it by the way) and since i’m kind of close to this one member, they see me as a threat of sorts? i really actually don’t know why. and honestly the half that blocked/ghosted my half weren’t really good friends because they’re very hypocritical and weird. we had a member (let’s call her Emily) who was very something phobic and was very open about it too. and even though the person who initiated all the blocking (and the other half of the group who follow them) is part of a certain community, they still stand by Emily’s side? it’s very, very confusing for me. i’ve been supportive, and have even shared my own experiences, but i guess that means nothing (even though i’m quite closeted). i’m just super peeved by this person. they are so blindsided by themself and put themself in a victim-blaming mindset. they are constantly very rude to me and bully me for certain aspects of my personality as well as make fun of the things i like, but they also had a breakdown over thinking they’re not nice. of course you’re not nice (if you’re reading this). you are very bad at reading social cues and could never tell when i felt uncomfortable. you already know i’m not the type to stand up for myself so of course i’d never mention it. but for someone who always says they don’t want to act like a bully or a narcissist like a certain person in your life, you’re very much the embodiment of it. i hope you can see yourself through another person’s perspective. you are very selfish and very rude, especially to me, because you know i’d never call you out for it. i wish i’d mention it before you crashed out over nothing.
i know that i didn’t do anything wrong and that they are overreacting because i haven’t spoken a word to them or texted them in over a month. not out of animosity, but because they’ve been avoiding me in the first place. the last time we spoke, we played games together all night. just the two of us. so it doesn’t make sense to me.
they started ignoring me and avoiding me. then they blocked me virtually everywhere. without ever telling me what was wrong. initially when they started ignoring me, i just brushed it off because when i feel severely depressed, i habitually cut ties with everyone (only when i was still young and immature though, i’ve grown a lot so now i tell people i need space instead of straight away ghosting them), so i thought they just needed to be alone. but i guess they’ve been secretly hating me.
and since you’ve already made me mad, i’m just going to say, you look exactly like the two people you hate. you don’t look any better. don’t delude yourself. i didn’t want to mention or even think it because it’s rude, since i know how much you despise them but now i don’t care. nobody likes you because of your ugly personality and the fact that you’re unattractive too. the personality puts people off the most.
the thing is, the person (let’s call her Sarah) who’s been the target of this bully has already tried reaching out so many times physically, virtually, through mutual friends, etc. but the bully has never given her a chance to even talk. it’s insane to me that you can vicitm-blame yourself so much that you shut out even one of your closest friends. (sarah and this person are so close, they’ve done things that only really close friends do, which i don’t want to mention).
you’re older than me, so i can’t believe i need to say this, but GROW UP.
anyway thanks for readng this mess. it’s late and i’m tired.
edit: it pisses me off that one of the people on the group has said that he wants to be neutral to avoid any drama but he constantly avoids my half of the group and only hangs out/talks to the other half. how can you say you want to remain neutral while blocking out the rest of us? all of the people in the other half are hypocrites. one of them (let’s call them Sky) has spoken badly about this girl who’s been ina talking stage with Sky. Sky mentioned so many times that this girl (who’s not in our friend group by the way) is a red flag, called Sky a b-word before, insults our friend group, insulted Sky multiple times, etc. BUT Sky still chooses to talk to her and hang out with her (drinking, parties etc.). MAKE IT MAKE SENSE. that’s how i know Sky is two-faced. how can you go around saying such things behind people’s back and oyu know they’re a bad person but still hang out with them even though you are the one who’s been hurt by them? i honestly hate the other half of the friend group they’re all really messed up.
