Recently, I’ve met up with my group of friends and all along while I was hesitant to do so. The reason was mainly because there was this girl in our group that is really FAKE. She will constantly judge others and make it all about herself. She’s also a pick me? Who always wants to be in the picture. The yearly gathering can work out without others but it cant work without HER because SHE always has to be the main character. Oh she even try to exclude me out of her social media post. I cant tell if people are just putting up with her or actually okay with her. Personally, I am someone who doesn’t like to waste my energy dealing with these people and I know it doesn’t do my mental health any good. They are in fact really great friends but I feel really drained hanging out with them because of this one girl. I wanna distant from the group but it feels like it isn’t fair to the rest who didn’t do anything. Kinda wished she could exit the group herself but that seems to be hard, considering the fact that she’s a pick me?
I would also like to add on that this girl used to stick really tightly to me and calls me a “bestfriend” when i barely talk to her. I feel like she’s doing it because I am a micro influencer? Who knows? She’s has a few tiktoks that went viral and was once constantly texting everyone to like her posts.
Hi @user1394, thank you for having the courage to reach out and share your experiences.
Navigating friendships and social dynamics can indeed be challenging, especially when there are people in the group who drain your energy. It’s frustrating to feel like you have to tolerate someone’s behavior for the sake of the group, and it’s completely valid to feel upset about the way she acts and treats you. It must be particularly tough when you’re trying to enjoy time with friends and this one person’s actions are making it difficult.
It sounds like you’re in a tough spot, wanting to distance yourself from the negativity while not wanting to lose the connection with the other friends who are genuinely supportive. You deserve to have a social circle that uplifts you and makes you feel good about yourself. It might be helpful to focus on spending quality time with the friends you feel closest to, perhaps in smaller settings where the problematic person isn’t present. This way, you can maintain those valuable connections without feeling overwhelmed.
Regarding the girl who calls you her “best friend,” it’s important to establish boundaries. It’s okay to distance yourself from someone whose behavior is affecting you negatively. You might consider gently communicating your feelings or, if that feels too daunting, simply reducing the time you spend engaging with her. Remember, your mental health and well-being come first, and it’s okay to take steps to protect that. You’re not alone in feeling this way, and it is okay to reach out fot support. Taking care of yourself is the best way to ensure you can be there for your true friends.
Please feel free to reply to this thread if you require further support. I hope this helps! 
Danial
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