just on August, 2024 was my lowest point in life. now tell me, what would you do if your “best friend” mocked you for having your parents argue everyday, and you being depressed? and shes the one who you never thought would, makes you relapse?(sh) shes nice to all your friends, but you. and gave you an excuse that shes trying to change to a “better” person, thats why she did that. even after all the things you did and sacrificed for her? even after that incident, i forgave her and gave her chances after chances, finally, she left me for a guy. honestly? i never felt anymore peaceful.
but, then just recently i forgave her again and said that i dont wanna have any hatred towards anybody anymore. and i said just dont bother me or my friends, but instead my friends are the one suddenly friends with her. i feel VERY uncomfortable, and the fact that somehow my friends kinda hide it from me because she was scared im gonna get mad, that means they know its wrong.
what do you think? what should i do?.. and do you think its normal for your friends to be friends with people who hurt you terribly in the past because they’re not the one who goes through it?
Hi @ash.66, thank you for having the courage to share your story.
It must be incredibly painful to have someone you trusted deeply mock you and contribute to your struggles, especially when you’re already dealing with so much. It’s understandable to feel hurt and confused by her actions, and it takes a lot of strength to forgive her despite everything that’s happened.
It’s also tough when your friends don’t fully grasp the extent of the hurt she caused you. They might not understand the impact it has on you, and it can feel like a betrayal when they continue to be friends with someone who hurt you so deeply. Your feelings are valid, and it’s important to communicate your discomfort to your friends. Let them know how her presence affects you and why it makes you feel the way you do. You deserve to feel safe and supported within your friend group.
Finding a balance between protecting your mental health and maintaining friendships can be challenging. It might help to focus on spending time with friends who understand and respect your boundaries, and gradually distance yourself from those who don’t. Remember to prioritize your well-being and seek support from trusted individuals, whether that’s friends, family, or a therapist. You’re not alone in this, and you deserve to surround yourself with people (like the empowering community in Let’s Talk) who uplift and support you.
tysm for this response, this makes me feel like the thoughts of what i think and feel about this situation actually valid and makes me feel like im not the problem is actually true.
