Hi im a high school student and i am so tired of being at home. My parents have a horrible relationshipand its affecting me really bad. My dad is a serial cheater, abuser, ex drug addict, smoker, alcoholic and a univeristy professor (the breadwinner of our family, hes the reason we live a comoftrbsle life). On the other hand, my mum is a woman with fountless mental illneses, a history of severe depression and multiple suivide attempts, severe anorexia and she is also a vheater with a short fuse. They always fight and my dad hits me after fighting with my mum while my mum refuses go feed me and verbally abuses me. My older ssiter is in un overseas bafk home in australia and she was my only defender. I try to protect my younger brother, who thinks im a boring and emba sister but i cry every day. Shat do indo? I dont know who to tell. I’d father be wigh my mum if theu (hopefully) divorce but she has no finsncisl stability. I am currently struggling with ocd, pica, bulimia and snsory disorders but they dont vare.
Hey @decentswan8711,
What you’re carrying right now is an enormous amount. That’s a lot for one person, let alone someone your age.
I want to address the things you asked about directly.
Your dad hitting you is physical abuse, and you don’t have to just endure it. In Singapore, you can reach out to the National Anti-Violence Helpline (NAVH) at 1800-777-0000, it’s a 24-hour helpline and you can call even just to talk through your situation and understand your options. You don’t have to have everything figured out before you call.
It sounds like losing your sister’s physical presence has left a real gap. She was someone in your corner, and that matters. Even though she is in Australia, she might still be someone you can lean on, whether that’s a call or a message when things get really hard.
The fact that you’re trying to shield your brother even when he doesn’t seem to appreciate it says a lot about who you are. He may not understand what you’re doing for him right now, but that doesn’t make it less real or less meaningful.
The most important thing I’d encourage you to do is talk to your school counsellor as soon as possible. You don’t have to share everything at once. You can start with just one thing, like the physical abuse or not being fed. School counsellors in Singapore are trained to help connect students to the right support, and they can help you navigate this without you having to figure it out alone. You deserve to have an adult in your corner who can actually act on your behalf.
Your own health also deserves proper care and attention, and your school counsellor can help get that process started too.
Please don’t wait too long to reach out to someone. You matter, and what’s happening at home is not okay.