im so tired of living at home with my dad…he gets mad over the smallest things and abuses me…and i end up going to school with bruises everywhere and on my face and im just a 15 yr old girl…its so difficult to cope with things at home…when i share with my friends they alway say report it to the police but i know that if i report i will really get beat up worst by my dad…when i go home late he beats me up even tho i tell the real reason because he will never believe it…i just dont get the point of him beating me up when he can just kill me…i ran away from home so many times and he said if i do it again he will send me to girls home. i just dont understand him because he said without me living here his life would be so much better, but why when i leave i will always end up back in this hell house. i do so much here so it just shows how much of a lazy bum he is…all this has been happening since i was 7. ever since that i really hate him. everything i do is wrong and i just want myself out of here…
Oh no, reach out to ur school counseller
hey you, first of all i’m so sorry that you’re going through such a difficult time at home.
i wanted to let you know that there is help.
your friends are not wrong about calling the police - do contact them if you feel like there is an emergency or if you, or someone at home is at the risk of being seriously hurt.
this is another helpline you can reach out to:
- National Anti-Violence & Sexual Harassment Helpline (NAVH) - 1800-777-0000
besides this, is there a trusted adult in your life you can reach out to? a non-immediate family member (aunts, uncles, cousins), teacher in school (doesn’t matter what kind or whether they teach you or not), tuition teacher, sports coach
the key is finding someone you can TRUST and someone who can act/speak on your behalf when you are unable to
you can also take photos of your injuries to leave behind evidence of the abuse
i wish you all the best, it’s not your fault
hey @user1399, i’m sorry to hear this is happening to you. you do not deserve it at all and your home should be your safe space. i understand that you fear reporting to the police might make matters worse and anger your dad even more, but for your safety this is a case that must be reported. alternative to the hotline that someone else here has already provided, you may also check out https://www.aware.org.sg/information/dealing-with-family-violence/, they have the option of making an appointment to seek guidance on such matters. perhaps they are able to provide advice on where you can seek refuge to ensure your safety while you report the situation.
you deserve a peaceful and safe home.
Just escalate this to the authorities and let them work out alternative living arrangements.
@user1399 , I sorry to hear the things that you had to go through at home.
Thank you for reaching out at this platform.
The next step that you can go is to approach your form teachers or any teachers in school that you are comfortable talking to for assistance. They will be able to make neccessary arrangement or link you to any organisation so that you and your dad can get help.