My mum keeps on threatening to kick me out of the house ever since the start of this year and I’m literally only 16, taking o levels this year. She keeps me at home everyday only to study, I’m not even allowed to go out for dinner with the family on weekends. And when my mother comes home from work, all she does is scold me because of school work again even if I did it right. Is this normal 
bc idk anymore and what can I do
Nope. U mean u cant even go out to eat w them? Thats insane
halloo, i don’t think this is normal, im 18 taking a levels this year and while my mom does limit my social activity in the sense i can’t go out with my friends unless it’s to study, i still go out of the house for family meals.
as for what you can do, i was just wondering when your mom scolds you because of school work, is it because she thinks you’re not putting enough effort? or maybe it’s because she thinks you’ll only be motivated to study if she scolds you? because the fact that she threatens to kick you out of the house seems like she is trying to find ways to motivate / scare you to study but of course i’m operating on limited information here so please correct me if i’m wrong. but if she is really trying to motivate you to study, i think one way to fix it is to let your mom know that you are motivated to study even without the scoldings and the threats.
it’s of course challenging and frustrating to manage the burden of studying and deal with your mom’s behaviour but sometimes we also have to accept parents are imperfect people too and we’ll all trying to learn to how to be better people i guess. don’t give up!
Hey @user2734 ,
I’m so sorry to hear what you’ve been going through. Being threatened by someone close to you and not being understood by her can be frustrating. And it also seems she’s doing many extreme ways that are unhelpful to make you study.
From what you’ve mentioned, it seems like your mother still scolds you despite you doing your school work. Could it be that there is a misunderstanding that your mother has? If so, would you be open to maybe talking to her about it? If you’re able to talk with her, you could also mention to her about how threatening to kick you out of the house and completely restricting you from going out can affect you.
It can be challenging to manage school work and you’r mother’s behaviour at the same time, especially during your O levels year. But you’re not alone in this and we’re all here for you 
Reach out to us here if you need someone to provide a listening ear 
I suppose the intent of all these “extra” actions is important. My suggestion is to have a heart-to-heart talk with your mother. Imo, she seems to be very concerned now that you are taking O-levels this year. It would help in some way if you can communicate your goals and aspirations to her so that she can adjust (hopefully) the way she supports you. The actions is out of the norm, but the concern is normal. Hope this helps.
Hey @user2734, you do not deserve to be treated like that 
I understand that you need to spend more time studying this year, but excluding you from all forms of social activity including family ones is rather intense and completely uncalled for. Is there any other family member/relative that is aware of what your mum has imposed on you? If not, would it be a valid excuse for you to stay in school longer and study there before returning home? Perhaps you could say that you are having remedial lessons or a study session in the library – would your mum be agreeable to this arrangement? Speaking from personal experience, I have found that the best way to deal with unreasonable parenting can be to create physical distance and spend as little time at home as possible. Since that might not be possible in your case, staying in school for longer might be worth a shot. I truly hope that you are able to work something out. Remember that your happiness comes before anything (including studying!!) and remember to take ample breaks! All the best 