Hi my name is angeline and i am 15, lately ive been thinking that my life means nothing and i feel so drained, it came from my family and social life. I really dont know what to do, I feel hopeless besides just rot in my room all day not knowing what to do and my relationship with my parents is poor, I barely talk with my dad and my mom is always stressing me up. Can someone tell me what to do or how to cope this issues? Ty! 
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Hi Angeline,
I’m really sorry to hear that you’re feeling this way. It sounds like you’re going through a really tough time right now, and it’s completely understandable to feel drained and hopeless when things seem overwhelming.
It’s great that you’re reaching out for help. Sometimes just talking about what you’re going through can lighten the burden a little bit. May I know if you have considered talking to someone you trust, like a friend or a school counselor? They might be able to offer support or a listening ear.
Additionally, you may wish to try to find small activities that can bring you joy or relaxation, even if they feel minor. Whether it’s listening to music, practicing mindfulness, journaling, drawing, or taking a short walk, these can help break the cycle of feeling stuck.
Remember, it’s okay to ask for help, and you don’t have to go through this alone. You deserve to feel better, and there are people who care and want to support you. Take care of yourself!
Im not sure if u r sec 3 going to sec 4 or u did ur olevels already, but what u can do is find hobbies to make u happy. If u r allowed then go out w ur frens to do stuff together. Reach out to ur student counsellor when school reopens. I unds that sec school sucks as u have to studdy subjects u have no interest in. My depression started from there but i had to find things in life that i like or look forward to for depression to go away. Therapy, exercise, full sleep, eat nutritiously n socialising helps too. If u r studying a course u like in poly then it might be better. U can look around for courses u might like to look forward to
Hi @Angelinec.
I guess you would benefit from better boundaries. I was so drained past olevels; felt betrayed of trust that I had on my parents and their advice. I mourned my grades for close to two years and then set back to work. This time, with better boundaries and enforcement.
Another thing that could possibly uplift your moods is listening to the radio. I started listening to the radio instead of music from Spotify or Yt, and honestly I feel more energised. The djs on the radio are cheerful and hilarious. that won’t actually add on to your feelings of devastation. I won’t be exaggerating if I were to say my mood has since been uplifted thanks to the radio. Give it a try!
Hope this helps!
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Hi @angelinec,
First of all, thank you for sharing how you’re feeling—it’s not easy to open up about tough emotions, and it’s clear you’re looking for ways to make things better. We should proceed cautiously, as you deserve to experience support and understanding.
It sounds like you’re feeling really stuck right now, with your relationships at home and socially not going well. This can make everything seem overwhelming. You’re not alone in this, and things can get better, even if they feel impossible right now.
Here are a few suggestions to help:
- Rebuilding Connection at Home
I know it’s hard when your relationship with your parents feels strained. Start small.
- With your dad: Maybe try something neutral, like asking about his day or doing a small activity together, even if it’s watching TV. Little actions can slowly break the silence.
- With your mom: If she’s stressing you out, can you tell her gently how you feel? For example: “Mom, I feel really stressed lately, and I think I just need some space to think.”
You don’t have to fix everything at once—just starting small can make a big difference.
- Taking Care of Yourself
When life feels overwhelming, doing little things for yourself can help.
- Try to leave your room for short breaks, like going for a 5-minute walk or sitting in a quiet place. Being in one space all day can make the stress feel heavier.
- If you enjoy anything—like music, drawing, or even watching a show—set aside time for it. It’s okay to have moments just for you.
- Finding Support
You mentioned feeling hopeless, and I want you to know it’s okay to ask for help.
- Do you have a trusted teacher, school counselor, or friend you can talk to? Even just sharing how you feel with someone can make it feel lighter.
- Writing down your thoughts in a journal can also help. Sometimes getting everything out on paper can make things clearer.
- Taking Small Steps
Right now, everything feels big and heavy, so focus on one small step at a time.
- For example, tomorrow you could try going outside for a short walk or talking to one person you trust. Just one small action can make a difference.
Angeline, you’re already doing something brave by reaching out. That shows you care about yourself and want to feel better. You’re not alone in this—there are people who care and want to help, like me. What’s one small thing you think you could try today? We are here to listen whenever you need.
You’re stronger than you think. 
Hi @Angelinec , thank you for opening up—it’s a brave and important first step. It sounds like things feel really heavy right now, and I’m so sorry you’re going through this. The fact that you’re self-aware and looking for ways to cope shows so much strength, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now. 
Here are some suggestions you could consider:
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Start a simple daily habit just for you – Even something small, like writing in a journal, or taking a short walk, can help you feel slightly more in control.
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Message instead of face-to-face conversations – Some people feel more comfortable texting than talking in person. If it feels easier, you could send your mom or dad a text about how you’re feeling or even something casual like “hope your day is okay.” This could be a gentle way to open up communication without too much pressure.
You’re not alone, and it’s okay to take small steps at your own pace. 
Do keep us updated!!