I feel like my brotherhood with my older brother has been like a toxic and unhappy married couple. Around 85% of our interactions nowadays are him scolding me for small reasons.
In the past, we used to play lots of games with each other, and we had lots of fun. But he started having more responsibilities as he grew up (like college, his future career, his girlfriend) and now, hes been having National Service.
Even before that, when he started college, his scolding habits would start to pop up. I mean I don’t mind one if it’s reasonable, but he seems to be pretty aggressive about it. It’s usually about little things which basic reasoning and a calm conversation would resolve. Not to mention, I only hear him using Singlish when hes scolding me. He is pretty forceful when doing so, always using a specific set of words, like “hoh”, “you’know” and most notably “right?”. I swear everytime I hear him use it, I get agitated. In fact, he only uses those words when scolding someone.
To be fair, he has been pretty stressed from college, and that has still stayed with him til right now. I guess he does have a lot of responsibilities to deal with and I understand his feelings. I guess it’s useful to bring up that my mother is like that too. Shes been pretty stressed with work and the household for what feels like the past few years. Once again, she only seems to use Singlish when scolding someone (always the HOH or YOU’KNOW and the RIGHT?) they always have a specific syntax just for scolding, and it just infuriates me.
I havent opened up about this to them yet, but I just feel really upset that my brotherhood has delved into mostly unnecessary tension and scoldings. I mean before he went to NS, I really wanted to play Minecraft and my brother promised me. But we never got to it since he was busy hanging out with his girlfriend. The only games we play now are him scolding me. And im sick of it. If thats what my brotherhood is now, then he is not my brother, just some toxic stresshouse. I dont want to tell him this since I know its going to worsen things. But I guess I just dont wanna interactive with him as often now.