Learning to trust people again

Over the past 2 years, I have been struggling to open up to people again, especially when it comes to beyond small talk. After what happened at work 2 years ago, I doubt I’ll ever be able to trust anyone ever again

What happened was that someone I confided to at work, was the same person who then told my secrets to everyone else, and they weaponised that against me.

And now, I find myself unable to open to practically anyone, even those I find close. Which has costed me a relationship. Or at least, one that almost formed

I don’t know what to do

Dear Boombubble,

I’m so sorry to hear that you’re going through this. Betrayal can be a difficult experience to overcome, especially in a professional setting. Hear that it has been two years but the impact of that experience still affects your life right now. That must be so hard. :hugs: Rebuilding trust and opening up to others again takes time and effort. Might I encourage you to be patient with yourself. Here are some steps you can consider trying out:

  1. Process your emotions: Acknowledge your feelings and give yourself time to grieve the loss of trust.
  2. Practice self-care: Take care of your physical and emotional well-being.
  3. Set boundaries: Establish clear limits with colleagues and acquaintances to protect yourself.
  4. Find a support network: Connect with people outside of work who you trust, such as friends or family.
  5. Seek professional help: Consider therapy or counseling to work through your feelings and develop strategies for rebuilding trust.
  6. Focus on positive relationships: Nurture connections with colleagues who have been supportive and trustworthy.
  7. Take small steps: Gradually open up to others, starting with small conversations and gradually building deeper connections.

Remember, healing is a journey, and it’s okay to take your time. You don’t have to face this alone. Hope this helps!

Take good care!


Thank you. Its been difficult rebuilding my social circle. But I suppose a post-pandemic world has lessened the burden somewhat