Over the past 2 years, I have been struggling to open up to people again, especially when it comes to beyond small talk. After what happened at work 2 years ago, I doubt I’ll ever be able to trust anyone ever again
What happened was that someone I confided to at work, was the same person who then told my secrets to everyone else, and they weaponised that against me.
And now, I find myself unable to open to practically anyone, even those I find close. Which has costed me a relationship. Or at least, one that almost formed
I don’t know what to do
Dear Boombubble,
I’m so sorry to hear that you’re going through this. Betrayal can be a difficult experience to overcome, especially in a professional setting. Hear that it has been two years but the impact of that experience still affects your life right now. That must be so hard. 
Rebuilding trust and opening up to others again takes time and effort. Might I encourage you to be patient with yourself. Here are some steps you can consider trying out:
- Process your emotions: Acknowledge your feelings and give yourself time to grieve the loss of trust.
- Practice self-care: Take care of your physical and emotional well-being.
- Set boundaries: Establish clear limits with colleagues and acquaintances to protect yourself.
- Find a support network: Connect with people outside of work who you trust, such as friends or family.
- Seek professional help: Consider therapy or counseling to work through your feelings and develop strategies for rebuilding trust.
- Focus on positive relationships: Nurture connections with colleagues who have been supportive and trustworthy.
- Take small steps: Gradually open up to others, starting with small conversations and gradually building deeper connections.
Remember, healing is a journey, and it’s okay to take your time. You don’t have to face this alone. Hope this helps!
Take good care!
northernlights
Thank you. Its been difficult rebuilding my social circle. But I suppose a post-pandemic world has lessened the burden somewhat