Why does talking loud being judge by ppl… What is your take on talking loud, but clear??
Why people like gentle and behind the back backstab ppl kind, bad character???
Dear Tigeagfreeflly,
I might be wrong but it sounds like you are wondering why people might judge others who talk loudly? People judge others for all sorts of reasons, loud talkers or ‘gentle talkers’, big or small, tall or short, and the list goes on so yes, I believe it is plausible that someone may be judged for being a loud talker but there are many reasons why someone might speak loudly and judgement isn’t very helpful. For example, people may talk loudly because they may be overcompensating for shyness or they may be proving a point or it may be due to past experiences or it could simply be just biological factors where our voice volume can be influenced by the muscle formation in our throats etc. Guess what I am saying is, I think people can talk loudly for many reasons and people can be judged for many reasons but the more important question is, what does it (the judgment) mean to you and is it something within your control?
Being judged for talking loudly can evoke a mix of emotions. Some people might feel embarrassed, self-conscious or defensive. Nobody likes being judged. It’s like standing under a spotlight and being scrutinized for your volume and behaviour. However, different people react differently to being judged. Some people may shrug it off while others may take it to heart. Wonder how do you respond when you feel judged for talking loudly?
Being a loud or gentle talker is one thing and ones character is quite another thing. Perhaps it might be helpful to de-link the two? Someone can be a loud talker and be a backstabber and someone can be gentle and be direct and clear in his/her communication and vice versa. It sounds like you may be thinking of specific people or have had experience with people who are loud but direct and clear, meaning straight-talking versus people who are gentle or soft spoken but backstabbers? Perhaps you could share a little more about your experiences with us and we can talk more.
At the end of the day, perhaps consider that we can only really control ourselves and we can decide who we want to allow to live in our minds and hearts rent-free. Let’s focus on ourselves and all the good things in our lives that we might be grateful for. One of the things you can consider doing is to do ‘Speed Gratitude’ where you quickly list down 10 things you are grateful for in 10 seconds. Try it and see how it makes you feel!
Hope this has been somewhat helpful for you. Take good care of yourself! 