It’s so frustrating whenever I start one task or conversation suddenly my mind cooks up something else and I go on and do or talk about other stuff.
When I am in class my mind starts daydreaming and the scenarios feel so real I end up replying to them out loud and that’s really awkward when people around me stare. My parents say it’s my phone so they took it away and all my other devices (I’m posting this from their computer) but it’s just making me even more restless because I can’t stop thinking about that now. And at night my brain is just imagining random stuff and there’s this random background music playing in my head (sometimes there’s two or more) and that one embarrassing moment from like ten years ago, some half finished argument with a person I don’t even talk to anymore, and I usually fall at midnight earliest.
Wow look the topic changed again. Is this normal?
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Hey @user9581. That honestly sounds really frustrating. I can feel how restless and overwhelmed your mind is just from reading this like it’s constantly jumping tabs and won’t let you stay with one thing for long.
I also hear how taking your phone away didn’t solve anything when it just gave your mind more space to spiral. That must feel really frustrating and unfair, especially when you’re already trying your best to cope.
What you’re describing actually happens to a lot of people like the wandering thoughts, vivid daydreams, mental background music, old moments replaying on loop. It’s more common than people admit; most just don’t talk about it. It can feel embarrassing or isolating, but it doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong. It can happen for several reason like when stressed out, tired, overstimulated or even bored.
The fact that you can step back and say, “Wow look the topic changed again,” shows a lot of awareness. It shows you’re tuned in to yourself, even if what you’re tuned into feels messy at the moment.
If it keeps affecting your sleep or school, it might help to talk to a counsellor or someone you trust, to help you figure out what supports actually work for you.
I’m really glad you shared this. You’re doing your best, and I hope things feel a little lighter for you soon, okie? Wishing you moments of calm and clarity as you move forward one step at a time 
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Dear @user9581
Thank you for sharing what has been happening. It is understandable that your current experience with mind wandering and loss of focus has greatly drained and frustrated you.
I’m glad you reached out and I see this as a good and proactive first step. I think it reflects your determination to overcome the current challenge you are facing.
I believe you are feeling quite overwhelmed at the moment which has contributed to the current loss of focus and mind wandering. I have observed that when we are overwhelmed, our mind tends to spin a lot of thoughts, many of them fleeting, random and unrelated. Sometimes, we can become so carried away in a train of thought it can feel like we are fully immersed in what our mind is telling us.
It would be useful to seek help soon from your school counsellor. They are trained to help you so do tap on their unconditional support.
Grounding skills to anchor yourself to the present moment and slowly being more mindful will also help. Start small by practising being in the present moment when carrying out your daily activities. For example, when walking towards your bus stop, instead of remaining in your head and ruminating on thoughts after thoughts, redirect your attention to your senses. Feel your shoes touching the road, observe the shrubs by the roadside and hear sounds of birds. Slowly, you can build your mindfulness habit, and thus the ability to remain in the present moment instead of being caught up in your mind.
Please do not be discouraged, what you have shared is fairly common and it can be overcome by taking small positive steps in the desired direction. Do reach out here whenever needed for support, too. 
we all have moments of busy mind at work be it a busy student or a busy working adult. Adulting means to take care of family and having alot more to do besides just work in the day and then head back to sleep. Try to reduce on your screen time and you will have a better sleep at night
Thanks for sharing OP, you described the feeling really well. I jsut want to say that Sometimes maladaptive daydreaming gets us through the day. When we’re really anxious or stressed it helps to be mentally somewhere else. I know it can be really frustrating and that you feel split what helped for me was dedicating a certain amount of Time for this. I know it sounds insane but trust me it works. I usually do it right before bed to relax myself and also so that it’s at the end of the day and I can remind myself that I have time scheduled for this thing. I don’t know if this helps but the focus also gets better with time. Be patient with yourself.