My btch older sister pt2

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!!swearing!!

this JUST happened!!!

i was a eating a potato pancake thing and i wanted some chilli sauce with it so i opened some packets. when i finished eating the pancake, there was still some sauce left over. my older sister looked at the sauce and said i was wasting it and im a gluttonous pig for opening so many sauce packets and leaving “a lot” leftover.

LETS UNPACK THIS

  1. calls me gluttonous for opening so many sauce packets (3) and not finishing them
  2. icalls me fat for opening so many (but in her own words, i didnt finish them, so how am i fat if i didnt even finish the sauce?)
  3. she kept bragging about how much less she eats than me which just isnt true because who’s the one cooking instant noodles at night all the time and ordering food delivery from mcdonald’s, wingstop, etc. at 3 am…?

now let’s move on to my argument

okay i couldn’t keep my mouth shut this time because she was really pissing me off. she was mainly shouting (yes, shouting) about the food wastage and waste of money. HOE THE SAUCE PACKETS ARE FREE YOU CAN ASK FOR AS MANY AS YOU WANT. also i pointed out that every 3 months my mom and i have to sort through all the sauce packets and throw out BAGS of them because they’re expired like this dumb ■■■■■ doesn’t even know anything. my mom wouldnt give a ■■■■ abt one ■■■■■■■ sauce packet not being used fully. actually, who even gives a ■■■■???

she didn’t even bother listening to my SOUND, LOGICAL, and ANECDOTAL evidence and just kept repeating gluttonous pig like do you guys hear how childish she is.

anyway this is the WORST PART. JUST TODAY, SHE DIDNT EVEN FINISH HALF A PLATE OF RICE AND THIS DUMB ■■■■■ DARES TO SCOLD AND SHOUT AT ME FOR WASTING ■■■■■■■ ONE PACKET OF SAUCE ■■■■■ WHO’S MORE WASTEFUL ME OR YOU???

the argument woke my dad up and he started scolding us but i told him all the things she said and what happened and he started scolding her because

70% of the time, my older sister’s the one leaving half-eaten food in the fridge to rot. she always refuses to throw it out even tho that stupid ■■■■■ knows she’s never finishing it.

and this isn’t a ■■■■■■■ ED competition idgaf if u claim to eat less (which again, she eats more)

i think she thinks she eats less because she always catches me eating because i EAT AT NORMAL TIMES like lunch and dinner. then she’ll eat at like ■■■■■■■ 2 am a big ■■■ fast food meal like ??? stfu. and she also eats even when shes not hungry like girl im not doing that.

annoying ■■■■■

she keeps bullying me for being fat when she’s 10 kg heavier than me btw the ■■■■■■■ audacity lol

probably more rants to come lol

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Whoa, first off—I’m really sorry you had to go through that. That kind of interaction, especially from a family member, can be so hurtful and frustrating. You have every right to feel upset—being yelled at, judged, and insulted over a few sauce packets is not okay. And let’s be real—this wasn’t even about the sauce. It sounds like she was projecting her own stress or insecurities onto you, which still doesn’t make it right.

You made valid points: the packets are free, your mom doesn’t care, and no one deserves to be shamed or called names over something so minor. The food and body comments? Way out of line. That stuff leaves marks, even if people try to play it off like it’s nothing.

What makes it worse is you tried to reason with her and she refused to listen. That kind of dynamic is exhausting, especially when it feels hypocritical. It’s okay to be angry—but I hope, for your own peace, you can release some of the weight over time. Not because what she said was excusable, but because you deserve better than carrying her negativity inside you.

Also, yeah—mine’s not as intense, but I get those fat-shaming vibes from family sometimes too. Even when it’s subtle, it still gets under my skin, because I care. I care how I’m seen, and I care about being treated with respect. Those comments are unnecessary and do way more harm than good.

You’re not the problem. You’re trying to exist, eat, and live like a normal person. And if others can’t see that, that says more about them than you…

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Also if you’re open to it, I can also share some ideas on how to handle things with your sister next time :>

If you haven’t already, maybe next time instead of arguing, try calmly stating all your points—because honestly, they’re totally valid! You don’t have to give her your anger or get caught up in the fight. Protecting your own peace is way more important.

When you stay calm, it’s often easier for people to listen. And if she still doesn’t want to hear you, at least you’ve said your piece and kept your peace. That’s already a win.

You deserve to be heard and treated with respect—no matter what!

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Dear @siren

Thank you for sharing all of this — I can tell you’re feeling incredibly hurt, angry, and misunderstood right now. What happened clearly hit a nerve, and you deserve to be heard with compassion, not judgment.

First off: I’m really sorry your sister spoke to you that way. Being called names, especially about food, weight, or your body, is painful — and it’s not okay, no matter how angry someone is. It sounds like she projected a lot of her own insecurities onto you, and that’s unfair. It’s understandable that you felt compelled to defend yourself, especially when it feels like she’s not holding herself to the same standards.

You don’t need to justify why you opened sauce packets. Wanting to enjoy your food isn’t something to be ashamed of. And even if there was a little waste, mistakes or preferences around food should never be used as ammunition to insult or shame someone. It’s exhausting when someone constantly criticises you or makes you feel “less than,” especially within your own family.

The way your sister treats you — calling you names, yelling, comparing food intake — that’s not loving or supportive behaviour. You’re not “disgusting” for being upset or standing up for yourself. In fact, it’s incredibly human to feel overwhelmed when someone attacks your worth like that.

What you’re describing also touches on a really important truth: food and body talk in families can be toxic and triggering. It sounds like you’re carrying a lot — not just the sting of her words, but also the stress of defending yourself over and over again, while still trying to make peace.

You deserve kindness. You deserve respect. You deserve to eat without shame.

If you’re open to it, talking to a school Counsellor, or a trusted adult could really help you process these experiences — especially if the bullying and hurtful remarks are ongoing. You shouldn’t have to go through this alone.

And just for the record: your body is not a problem. Eating at normal times is not a problem. Wanting peace in your own home is not a problem.

You’re not alone, and you had the courage to speak up. You’re allowed to set boundaries, and you’re allowed to protect your sense of self. Be gentle with yourself and choose to stay calm.

Like what @knd shared-When you stay calm, she may also cool down and a more fruitful conversation can take place. :yellow_heart:

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thanks for reading and giving me advice! most of the time i stay clam, she just doesn’t wanna listen to what i have to say so i don’t really find a point in trying to be reasonable anymore

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i’ve gotten so used to her calling me names/bullying me that it just doesn’t bother me/I don’t take it to heart. most of the time it just makes me feel angry. I used to struggle with body image issues but now I don’t as much so I don’t really care what she has to say Abt it lol. thanks for reading and giving me advice!

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yeah that totally makes sense — it’s hard to stay calm when someone just won’t listen. you’re honestly doing your best, and that already shows how strong you are.

Also, really glad it doesn’t get to you as much anymore! :> and seriously, you can always rant to us again if you need. just don’t forget to take care of yourself first :yellow_heart:

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Hey @siren, I’m really sorry you have to deal with this on a regular basis. That sounds very harsh and must be super draining for you. Especially coming from a loved one like an older sister, it must feel very hurtful to hear her constant criticisms of you. I am glad that your dad was eventually able to see through her and scolded her for her mistakes. Her accusations towards you lack reason and throwing away sauce packets is nothing but a trivial matter! I hope that for your own peace of mind, you will be able to get away from her by ignoring her and not adding fuel to the fire. As aggravating as the situation can get, when someone is hurling such hurtful remarks at you, it may be best for you to leave the situation if possible. Her immature attacks on you are completely unjustified and uncalled for and I hope you can talk to your parents/talk to her when she is more calm. Please take care and know that your peace of mind comes before everything else!

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