Story:
An hour ago, I had lost my glasses, My mom found it under a wardrobe with wheels and started nagging at me non stop, and the worst part is, She starts nagging at me about different topics for 30 whole minutes. My father joined in with her, it makes me feel that I don’t have a pife anymore, I even thought about doing self harm or running away from the house. It made me cry and my mother forced me to be strong and not cry… But I just couldn’t help it. She doesn’t understand how I feel when she does these kinds of things. I have been womdering… Is running away from them the right thing?
Hi @IAlwaysNeedYou
I am thankful to you for reaching out to us to share your experiences. I’m sad to hear that you’re going through this. It sounds like a really tough and emotional experience.
Firstly, please know that you’re not alone, and it’s okay to feel overwhelmed. Losing your glasses and then being nagged about it can be frustrating, but I believe though what hurts more is it’s the constant criticism and lack of emotional support.
Please know that your feelings are valid. It’s okay to cry and express your emotions. Your mom’s reaction, telling you to be strong and not cry, might have come from a place of concern, but I believe it is not helpful in this situation.
Regarding running away from home, I would advise against it. While it might seem like an escape from the situation, it can lead to more problems and uncertainties. Instead, consider talking to a trusted adult, such as a teacher, school counsellor, or another family member, about what you’re going through. They might be able to offer you emotional support, provide guidance, or help you develop strategies to cope with the situation.
In the meantime, here are some things you can try:
- Take a break: If you feel overwhelmed, take some time for yourself to calm down. Go for a walk, listen to music, or engage in an activity that helps you relax.
- Practice self-care: Make sure you’re taking care of your physical and emotional needs. Eat well, exercise, and get enough sleep.
- Communicate your feelings: When you feel ready, try talking to your mom about how her behavior is affecting you. Use “I” statements to express your feelings and avoid blaming language.
- Seek support: Reach out to friends, family members, or a trusted adult for emotional support and guidance.
For immediate support, do consider reaching out to these options:
- Singapore Association for Mental Health (SAMH) - 1800-283 7019
- IMH CHAT: (https://www.imh.com.sg/CHAT/Get-Help/webCHAT/Pages/default.aspx)
- SOS - 1767
- Care Corner Counselling Centre - 1800-353 5800
Remember, you deserve to be treated with kindness, respect, and understanding. Don’t give up hope – things can get better with time, support, and effort. You are precious and please know you’re not alone;there are people who care about you and want to help. 
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