I used to be talk to my colleague and always lunch with her. One day, I got very busy with my work that I didn’t talk to her much…
Long story cut. Now, I cannot stand her. She ignores me and makes me feel so lousy by going out with colleagues for lunch while I have no one to lunch with.
I heard terrible things about her. Other colleagues are aware about this. Amazedly, they are so friendly with her.
That sounds really painful, @user4592. It’s tough when someone you once felt close to suddenly feels like a stranger, especially when it happens quietly, without clear explanation. Feeling excluded while watching others grow closer to her must feel immensely daunting - both loss and confusion at once. And when you’re already overwhelmed with work, those emotional hits can really sneak in deep.
Sometimes relationships shift without warning, and it leaves us hanging in that uncomfortable in-between of not knowing what went wrong or how to make sense of it all. If you ever feel like unpacking more of what happened (what you heard, how things changed, or how it’s affecting your day-to-day), I’m here.
Maybe talking it through could help untangle some of the knots. Would you like to tell me more about what you heard or how you’ve been coping since Whatever you’re feeling is valid.
Hope to hear from you soon!
Best regards,
HanSolo2000
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@user4592 What you’re going through says more about your values—like loyalty, connection, and fairness—than it does about you doing anything wrong. The fact that you’re noticing and reflecting on all this shows you care deeply, even when it hurts.
If it helps, you’re not alone in feeling like this—office relationships can be messy, but they don’t define your worth. You deserve people who make you feel included and respected. You matter, even if the current situation doesn’t reflect that.
Hi, i didn’t expect a response to my post as I am just ranting. Bottling up my emotions is not good for me.
Actually I am okay if our relationship has ended.
Just that she is making me feel so terrible. I sit next to her so I get the sense that she is out to make me feel terrible. And also before our relationship has ended, she had done things that made me feel lousy. To the point of asking me if I have regretted my unintentional action towards her.
A colleague noticed that I am not talking to that narcissit colleague anymore and I told her about my story. She said that I am not the only victim. She was also the victim and used to be close to that narcissist colleague.
I wlil say that she is quite a fake person who will be so nice and then manipulate your feelings. for e.g she ignored me to make me feel so sorry that I didn’t talk to her much.
The best thing, colleagues are aware about what she is like and yet are so friendly with her. Even they agreed to join badminton session that she organised.