I went on a holiday with my friend a few days back and when it back home, my mom said that I am procrastinating because of my friend and became very lazy.
I realised that when I’m at home, I’m unhappy most of the time and always feel like crying or self harming especially when my parents are around
Is this normal? I feel like I can’t cope with my emotions
I used to have bad relationships with my parents too. Things got better when I moved out for a few years.
I also noticed that I tend to be hard on people that I’m close with. Maybe we take relationships (especially kinship) for granted. Parents (especially Asian parents) would think that their way is better. 
After moving back, I was more open with my parents regarding my feelings. Telling them that I was hurt by their words and try to understand from their pov a little. Maybe they are just worried but didn’t know how to express it in a nice way. It is not your fault and I’m sorry that you have to deal with this.
Perhaps give them time and talk to them about this when you feel that they are ready for it.
I guess it’s a case of burnout. Ever since Covid pandemic, we have been staying home for more durations than we used to before the pandemic. Since, we share the space at home with our family members for longer periods of time, we tend to transcend our boundaries more often causing clashes. So, I guess you are experiencing “Cohabitation burnout”. The following link has more details on that.
Hope it helps!
Hi 4ever
I am sad you’re feeling this way. Here are some steps that might help:
Set Small Goals:
Accomplishing small tasks can make you feel more in control and less overwhelmed. What are some goals you can set for yourself to be accomplished on a daily weekly and monthly basis. Write these down. Get started, the rest will flow eventually. Keep yourself accountable by tracking your progress. Celebrate small wins. Share your plans with your family if you feel it is safe. Including them in your plans could increase their support and understanding of what you are aiming to achieve.
Talk to Someone:
It could be a friend, a teacher, or a school counselor. Talking about how you feel can be a big relief and they might be able to offer help or advice. Counsellors are trained to equip you with better coping skills. When you feel overwhelmed, you can draw strength from using these skills to better manage the emotions and negative thoughts.
Write Down Your Feelings:
Sometimes, writing down what you’re feeling can help you understand your emotions better and see things more clearly.
Take Care of Your Body:
Make sure you’re eating well, getting enough sleep, and being active. Physical health can impact how you feel emotionally. Exercise and fresh air can help you achieve more calmness and clarity. Take action to break free from the current cycle you are in, step by step.
Practice Mindfulness or Relaxation:
Techniques like deep breathing, meditation, or even simple stretching can help calm your mind. Your mind will less likely be swept away by incessant mind chatter and develop the quality of focus and clarity.
Remember, it’s very important to reach out to a counsellor if you’re feeling like you might harm yourself. You don’t have to go through this alone, and there are people who want to help you feel better. Another avenue is the SOS 24 hour helpline which is reachable at 1767.
Please take care. Thank you for the courage to seek assistance. A journey of a 1000 steps begin with taking the first one. You can do this 
That sounds like a lot to process. Does your mum usually say stuff like this or is it just after this particular holiday. Like what @user1222 says, I find that Asian parents (mine included) are often very harsh with their words but maybe they don’t fully mean it.
You say that you are unhappy most of the time at home. How long has that been and do you think that’s because of what your parents say or do? How do you usually cope nowadays?
I understand this situation, sometimes we feel unhappy because our parents force us to do things that we do not like it or say something bad. It is normal to feel embarrassed but remember that they are still our parents no matter what they’ve done, give some space to them and try to talk when the situation gets better🫶🏻
@lovelychange in same boat, but i dun cry unlike OP, i get mad. Never wanto be locked down again, its stifling. Ive low energy but gg out for short periods of time helps me self soothe
@4ever Your folks might be emo immature, u can google abt this. It explains how to cope… i ustand how tough it is. Coz my old man is domineering like this too
@Fenrispro Actually, I too am in a similar situation. It’s like we are supposed to support everyone without expecting the same from others. But just wanted to remind everyone that we are not superhumans, so we need our space to thrive. As @CaringBee said, we have to set goals towards rectifying this problem. Honestly, writing down my feelings has helped me so much. Whenever, I get anxious or sad, I take a paper and jot down my insecurities. You won’t believe me, but the first time I did this, tears streamed out like 
. So these tips are extremely helpful in relieving stress. I mean, these are things that won’t actually require much energy.
Yes i do journaling, or i fictionalise it. My therapist said to try writing how i hate said person, crumple and tear the paper