– – – posting for a friend – – –
Sometimes I feel that the friendship doesn’t feel like friendship anymore since it’s just bestie venting about every single inconvenience in their lives while I’m the unpaid and untrained ‘therapist’. I’ve been more irritable recently as I gain greater awareness of the infinite loop of “bestie venting and me attempting to soothe through emotional validation and providing solutions which bestie will ignore and move on to next inconvenience to vent” and its impact on my sanity. For the record, I nearly threw my phone down the balcony when I saw their conversation was at the top of my recent chats the minute I open Telegram.
Shared my woes with other friends and everyone suggested giving a low effort response or don’t reply at all. I heed their advice and I had been giving bestie low effort responses since, but bestie is still able to carry on the conversation as though they didn’t seem to detect the low effort replies. Major face palm.
My next best bet is to stop all engagement. No replies no nothing. But I think it is easier said than done, I just can’t bring myself to ignore bestie completely… So I’m conflicted because I know the whole situation is taking a toll on my sanity but a part of me still wants to engage .