hi i have a counsellor in school and im always unable to tell him how i feel and just say im doing well. im always putting up a cheery and outgoing attitude at school but the moment im home by myself im like a completely different person. i always randomly cry over nothing and just break down. im super sensitive lately and everything makes me cry too. i always feel like i have to fake a happy self infront of others cause i dont want them to worry about me and i dont like the attention on me. I feel like i need help from others to listen to my feelings but i always refuse it? I dont like others seeing a vulnerable side of me. i genuinely feel really drained and tired and i feel like my life has no meaning to it. like i dont know what is there to live for. i shouldnt be complaining when im unable to express my emotions or just mention the topic of me being sad but i genuinely dont know what to do as i always brush the topic of it away and say im alright when im clearly not.
Write down ur major thoughts when u r breaking down or what u r bothered w, bring the list to ur counsellor
Hi user 1529
Thank you for being upfront about what you are currently going through. It sounds like you’re going through a really tough time, and it’s courageous that you’re recognising the need to address these feelings. First, let’s acknowledge that it’s completely okay to feel overwhelmed and struggle with emotions.
Your random crying spells and sensitivity might be related to anxiety and stress. It’s like your emotions are bottled up, and sometimes they just need to escape.
Please know that many of us do at times put up a “fake happy” persona. I believe you don’t want to burden others or draw attention to yourself. But here’s the thing: hiding your true feelings can be exhausting and make things worse in the long run.
Do consider:
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Embracing Vulnerability: It’s scary, but allowing yourself to be vulnerable can lead to deeper connections and a sense of freedom.
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Talking to Your Counsellor: Consider opening up to your school counsellor about how you’re really feeling. They’re there to support you, not judge.
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Self-Care: Make time for activities that bring you joy and help you relax.
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Exploring Interests: Try new hobbies, join clubs, or volunteer to discover what sparks passion within you.
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Setting Small Goals: Achieving tiny objectives can give you a sense of accomplishment and direction.
Remember, you don’t have to face this alone. Reach out to trusted friends, family, or a professional for support. Your emotions are valid, and there’s always hope for a brighter tomorrow.
Hey @user1529 ,
It sounds like you’re dealing with a lot, and it must be exhausting to keep it all inside. It’s hard when you feel like you have to put on a happy face for everyone, even though you’re struggling deep down. That takes so much energy and can leave you feeling really drained and alone.
It makes sense to want to protect others from worrying about you, but remember that you deserve support too!! Sometimes letting people see even a small part of what you’re going through can be a way to share that load, even if it’s just a little bit at a time.
Actually, sharing what you’ve just written with your counsellor could be a huge step in helping them understand how you truly feel and why. It’s a great way to start a conversation without having to explain everything on the spot. I wonder if you’d consider showing it to them? You don’t have to face this alone, and even small steps like this can really make a difference.
Be kind to yourself and try not to judge your feelings; you’re not alone in this, and what you’re feeling is real and valid. You deserve the chance to feel supported, even if it’s one step at a time. Hang in there. 