Is it normal to have guys looking at other girls videos on social media? I know we are together and yet the wallpaper or all his phones is about other girls. Me will feel disrespected and insecure in this relationship. This is even before marriage? What happenes even after marriage? And what worse i feel its a form of spritual cheating already, even his friends around him question him the fact that does he really wanna spend his life with me. He also have all the videos of those girls in his phone galleries leading me not to even open anything about his phone or his stuff. As I know, once I looked at it, i will even sad and angry with him and its not a good feeling. I really do not know how to bring up this topic with him and wish this relationship will last, but it always seems like im the only one working in this relationship. He cares and shows love and concern in actions but this always have been something big from the start of our relationship. Our relationship also did start off randomly which up til now, im unsure of how he feels
Dear @user0084 ,
I hear you. Your situation sounds tough, and i can understand your point of view.
I think the context matters. Are the “other girls” his platonic friends? Or are they strangers on social medias? Personally, i do feel that it is disrespectful to purposefully view inappropriate photos of strangers.
I think the most effective way to solve your troubles may be to talk to him directly. Perhaps you can try easing into the conversation by saying that you noticed his social media photos, and subsequently noticed similar videos in his gallery. Make it clear that your feelings are hurt, and tell him why.
Ultimately, know your worth. Anyone who can have you as their partner is lucky, and you deserve utmost respect in a relationship. Of course, do treat others the way you want to be treated too. Be firm when talking to your partner, and remember your worth.
I wish you the best!