Seriously I don’t know why I had to born in this world… Everyday I hope I can die in my slp without waking up anymore to wake up to worry about some many things cycle repeating…
Esp worry about finance, alrdy not very… And with now added burden we have to pay for hse bill etc … Which mean shortage of to …
Not having enough and every cents hv to count proper… Now even more…
And with now mi dad retired nt working anymore and everything we hv to pay … And he dun even give mi mum money… As my mum always everyday chanting to him about money issue as people always said that they retired and they got a lot to spend and if people unable to take out mean they are being cheated and no more left…
And he got no feeling at all dun even bother at all…
And I envy those parents that left inheritance for their child… Not that we want their inheritance… But just that feel so irresponsible to hv such a parents that only think of themself than this is the purpose of married and give birth…
All to bring burden to the next generation with the huge burden of finance and everything…
And we may not have anything inheritance in the end and we still have to fulfill our responsibility for this kind of selfish and irresponsible and only think of themself but not their child future…
And if we did not fulfill our responsibility and people will said you drink so much milk powder to become so big…
Than in the first place why do you want married and give birth… Give birth and expect us to fullfill responsibility than what had u brought for us … Non but only burden…
Bring burden to us only… Not even happy at all…
Than who going to take care of me in future who going to share my burden and whp going to care for mi when I’m old…
Such an unfair world should stop bringing ppl to life to suffer with school with work with burden with life…
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Hi Tigeagfreeflly
Thank you for courageously coming forward for help with your struggles. I am sorry to hear how overwhelmed you are feeling. Your frustration is fully valid and deeply understandable. On top of financial struggles, you shared you are also burdened by parental responsibilities. With parents retired, there is an additional expectation to share paying for family expenses.
You are only human when you express envy at friends who do not have to contribute towards family expenses and receive inheritances. Many among us do share similar frustrations when faced with parents transitioning out of the workforce due to retirement and the accompanying change of expectations.
May I suggest you spend some time writing down the monthly budget you require for your expenses (transport, meals, savings, bills). What is left is your disposable income.
Next, gather your family members and consolidate all the family bills and expenses that are necessary. Review expenses which are unnecessary and could be let go.
Agree on each family members’ responsibility to pay for which bill/expenses and on a budget to stick to. Communicate openly the constraints you have, and challenges you are facing. Establish boundaries and limits to how much you can contribute and what is acceptable and within your means.
Explore your family’s eligibility to apply for support services such as the Citizen’s Consultative Constituency ComCare fund, Community Development and Welfare Funds or any other community social welfare services/grants.
Be kind to yourself and allocate time to recharge and relax as a form of self-care.
Please do not feel alone. Many among us go through this transition of a change of roles and expectations. With greater communication, a better balance and understanding is possible. Take small steps to initiate the open dialogue and communication so that there is greater understanding and give and take. Remember, your life has value, and there are people who care. 