i got 2.8 out of 4 for my frst year in poly and im really worried as itll affect my future really bad how do i cope with this my friends arent even listening to my worries and i feel very alone pls help
Hey @jdisjrv ,it sounds like you’re really stressed about your GPA and feeling like you don’t have anyone to turn to right now. That’s tough, and it’s completely okay to feel this way. First off, 2.8 isn’t the end of the world—it’s not perfect, but it’s also not a failure. Plenty of people have turned things around in later years, and even if your GPA doesn’t end up where you want it, there are always other paths forward.
It sucks when friends don’t seem to listen, especially when you just need someone to understand. Since you’re feeling alone, I wonder if you have other support pillars which you can talk to - e.g., school counsellor, close family member, sibling? You’re not alone in this, even if it feels that way right now.
My advice is maybe you can break things down into smaller steps—figure out how you can improve in the next semester, get study help if needed (e.g., a Poly senior who has done that module before). Do take care of yourself mentally too as burnout makes everything harder.
Try to score almost full gpa for the next 2 years. I think that way, it will drag the points to 3.6
Hi @jdisjrv,
Thank you for reaching out and sharing how you’re feeling. It sounds like you’re carrying a lot of worry about your GPA and what it could mean for your future, and I want you to know that I hear you. It’s totally understandable to feel overwhelmed when things don’t go the way you expect or hope for, especially when you care about your academic future. It’s really brave of you to ask for help when it feels like your friends aren’t listening—that shows a lot of strength, even though it might not feel that way right now.
You mentioned feeling alone and like your friends aren’t hearing your worries, and that can be such a painful experience. It’s important that you feel heard and understood, especially when you’re going through a tough time. Sometimes, when we’re dealing with anxiety and stress, it can be difficult to communicate how we’re feeling in a way that others can fully grasp. It might help to think about opening up to your friends in a way that helps them understand the depth of what you’re going through—perhaps by telling them specifically what you’re worried about, like your fear of how the GPA might affect your future or your sense of self-worth. Sometimes, just sharing how deeply something is affecting us can make a big difference in how others respond.
It’s also important to recognise that your GPA doesn’t define who you are or your worth. I can hear that you’re scared that this will affect your future, but a 2.8 is not the end of your potential—it’s just one point in your journey. You still have time to improve, learn, and grow, and your worth is much more than any number on a paper. It’s also okay to feel this way and take time to process your emotions without rushing to “fix” everything. It’s important to be kind to yourself and give yourself the space to breathe.
If you ever find yourself overwhelmed again with these worries, there are some things we can work on together, like deep breathing exercises or cognitive reframing, which can help reduce anxiety and shift your focus from the “what-ifs” to what you can control in the present. A little focus on the next manageable step (like preparing for the next assignment or test) rather than stressing about the bigger picture might also help break down that anxiety. And if you’re open to it, we can work together on how to talk to your friends more openly about how you’re feeling, so you don’t feel so alone in this.
Remember, asking for help is an important step toward getting through this. It’s okay to need support and lean on others when it feels tough. We all go through periods of self-doubt, but they don’t define us. You’re capable of handling this, and it’s okay to take small steps to build your confidence back up.
Take care of yourself, and remember, this is just one moment in time, and you’re not alone in it.
Hi @jdisjrv it sounds like you are very concerned about your academics and future and that is a really valid concern we students have. As someone who has been in the education system for quite some time now, I hope you know that your grades are not a reflection of your self-worth and that you are capable of so much more! You might not have met your expectations for your first year, but there’s still plenty of time and more years ahead for you to grow and do better! As a student sometimes I don’t meet my own expectations too and I get worried for my future as well but what helps me best is trying to think about what didn’t work well this time and how I can improve from here on out, after all learning is a process so please be kind to yourself too! You are not alone in feeling this way and if you would like to talk and share about how you feel we are always willing to listen!
hi there, i hear you!! i get how you feel as i am in a similar position currently, so you are definitely not alone, we are always here to listen to you and share your burdens with you :,) something that i have learnt recently is reframing my mindset and perspective. i understand that times are tough right now, and even harder when you look forward into the future; but it may be reassuring to remember that everyone takes different routes at different paces! i like to imagine like we’re on a highway with different junctions, everyone’s taking different exits, we’re all driving at different speeds – all different journeys, but eventually we reach our destinations. just remember that you are never alone! there are people who care for you and love you :,) wishing you all the best for your studies, keep on persevering through the growing pains and i hope that you too, reach your destination successfully, with all the insights and beautiful stories you glean along the way~