I’ve had some friendship issues in sec 2 which made me lonely and it wasn’t like I didn’t have any friends I just didn’t have anyone close enough to rant to and hangout with in my class ofc I still had my cca and club friends but sometimes I feel like a backup friends that they only get close to when they have a breakup or friendship breakup and at that point in time it makes me feel wanted when they ask me to hangout but then they make up and don’t rlly invite me anymore and also sec 3 I had a rlly bad situation happen in school cuz I sh and there was a rumour that I said my friend was the reason and at that point those friends spread rumours and escalated it and I tried to talk to my friends about it but some probably spread it to others and it became a whole thing but now in term 3 we are all friends again so it’s rlly confusing whenever I have these friendship problems it seems so deep but after that u just give it two months and it’s all resolved and I always wonder if I’m overreacting nd if I’m a bad friend or person because I somehow get these friendship issues without seeking for it I wanna know what I’m doing wrong but at the same time I also know maybe I tell ppl too much as I probably have some level of anxiety and maybe I’m just too much sometimes but now I find it very hard to tell ppl how I’m rlly feeling cuz idw to be a burden and like yea
it sounds really exhausting having to go thru these every few months, uncertain and confused or thinking when the next friendship problem will be. when smth like this happens to me, it can also be easy to default to blaming ourselves sometimes.
It is also awful to feel like you cant trust ppl to share things without being a burden.
what helped me when i faced this was to differentiate what i can and cannot control. so i cant control what they will do or say, so why let their actions define my worth?
I hope you can find a trusted friend or adult to talk to. try not to keep it to yourself >.<
Back in sec sch, once I moved on to healthier friendships, things got a bit better. I hope you find some people who make you feel safe too xx
Thank youu I will try it out