maybe I’m putting this in the wrong place but I don’t know where else to put it
I’m tired, as the title implies. but not because of labor or depression or whatever else, I’m tired of myself.
I think it started in grade school, when I got put into a SPED (special Ed) room, and was not told there was another option.
in that SPED room I did a whole lot of nothing, no assignments, no books, no art, nothing. I was never given these things, I was just told to be there, so I was. and up until middle school, that’s all I knew about school. once middle school hit, I didn’t know how to do anything past basic multiplication, and I didn’t know how to cope with not knowing. so I just sat on YouTube, not doing anything because I didn’t want to, and I was never told to do something I didn’t want to.
cut to high school, and I’m failing, hard, I know why, it because I’m not doing the work, but when I try to, I just cant. I know I have to, and I want to, but I just don’t.
i’ll be straight, I hate myself for this, I cant even bring myself to listen half the time. and I’m tired of it, but I don’t know what to do, and that just makes me angry more than anything.
I think sometimes it’s hard to make big changes for yourself alone. Having a good friend to make you accountable helps too perhaps it would be good to find a study group or an accountability buddy to study with you?
Hmm I think it’s okay to feel angry about yourself too. In this case it’s your inner self wanting to change for the better and perhaps what you need to do is figure out how you can use these emotions to drive you further into taking actions towards who you wanna be and I feel like you are already doing that by seeking help and voicing things out here
Another thing is to remember its okay to take things one small step at a time and be consistent. Like trying to study for 10 mins a day to 15mins to 20mins and so on. Pace yourself and you will be surprised how far you will go
If anything feel free to share more here I’m here to listen heh
Hi there, I’m sorry to hear about what you are going through. These school years can be extremely tough, challenging but most of all exhausting mentally and physically. I can imagine how this must be tough on you and I am here to listen so please always express how you are feeling on here!
Be kind to yourself. Remember that your grades do not define you as a person. Studying is something which takes a while to master but I have no doubt you will find the right technique that may ease the hardships of your academics. Perhaps try flashcards and reciting them back to yourself, it can be an effective way to store information in your long term memory. Is this something you may want to try?
I care and I am here to listen to you, so please don’t hesitate to talk about how you are feeling on here!
Hey, I hear you, and I want to say right away that you’re not putting this in the wrong place—your feelings are valid, and it’s important to talk about them, especially when it all feels like too much. It sounds like you’ve been through a lot, and you’re carrying a lot of frustration and self-doubt from your experiences. You were put in a position where you were left to do nothing, without the support and guidance you needed, and that’s incredibly draining. It makes sense that you’re feeling this way—when you’ve been stuck in a cycle like that for so long, it’s hard to break out, even when you know you want to.
The fact that you’re able to reflect on this and see where things started is a sign that you care. But that doesn’t mean it’s easy, and I get how exhausting it must feel to try and push yourself and still come up empty. It’s important to remember that not being able to move forward right now doesn’t make you a failure—it’s burnout, and it’s a real thing. You’ve been running on empty for a long time, and no one told you how to fill your tank.
It’s frustrating, and I can hear the anger you have toward yourself, but try not to beat yourself up over that either. Feeling stuck doesn’t mean you’re broken—it means you’ve been in survival mode for too long. You’re allowed to take the time to rebuild yourself and figure out what you need. And even though it feels like you can’t move, maybe starting with small steps can help. Break everything down into tiny, manageable tasks—things that feel achievable, even if they’re just little bits at a time.
You’re not alone in this, and you’re not stuck forever. If it helps, maybe talk to someone you trust about this—sometimes just sharing the weight can help you start to see a way forward. Or, you could always write more on Let’s Talk when you need to! Be kind to yourself during this process. You deserve that kindness.
If you’re up for it, here are a few steps that could help break the cycle and start to rebuild your motivation and energy:
Acknowledge the Burnout – The first step is recognizing that what you’re experiencing is burnout, and it’s not a sign of failure. You’ve been running on empty for a long time, and it’s okay to feel stuck. Be gentle with yourself and recognize that recovery takes time.
Start Small, Be Specific – When everything feels overwhelming, break tasks down into the tiniest possible steps. For example, if homework feels too big, start with just one problem or read one paragraph. When you accomplish that tiny step, give yourself credit—it’s progress.
Set Achievable Daily Goals – Instead of looking at everything you need to do all at once, set a few (just up to around 3) simple goals for each day. Make them small and achievable. This helps build momentum without feeling like you’re drowning in tasks.
Create a Routine – Try to build a daily routine that includes small breaks and moments of self-care. Structure helps create a sense of control and reduces the feeling of being overwhelmed. Even scheduling downtime is crucial to prevent burnout from getting worse.
Practice Self-Compassion – It’s easy to be hard on yourself when you’re stuck, but try to treat yourself with the same kindness you would show to a friend. Remind yourself that it’s okay to not have everything figured out, and that taking small steps toward progress is enough.
Limit Digital Distractions – When you’re in a cycle of avoidance, like YouTube or endless scrolling, it can make things feel even harder. Try setting limits on your screen time or creating a “distraction-free” zone for short periods during the day to focus on tasks.
Reach Out for Support – Whether it’s a counselor, teacher, or a trusted friend, sharing how you’re feeling can help. Sometimes, just talking things through can provide a fresh perspective, and they may have ideas or support to help you take that first step.
Mindfulness and Meditation – Anxiety and stress can build up over time, making it harder to focus. Practicing mindfulness or short meditation sessions can help clear your mind and restore some energy. Apps like Headspace or Insight Timer have quick sessions to get started.
Physical Movement – It doesn’t have to be intense exercise. Something as simple as a walk or stretching can help release tension and improve your mood. Physical movement helps break the cycle of sitting still and can boost mental clarity.
Celebrate Small Wins – Every time you manage to complete a small task or take a positive step forward, celebrate it. Even if it feels insignificant, it’s progress. The more you celebrate small wins, the more you’ll build your confidence and motivation.
Remember, it’s okay to take this one day at a time, and you don’t have to do it all at once. It’s about gradually finding what works for you and being kind to yourself through the process.
