Kind of tired of everything and everyone - is it normal?

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hi everyone!! first time posting here, so forgive me if the format of this post is wonky :slight_smile:

anyways, getting into things! recently, i’ve started to have this nagging sort of feeling of being tired of everyone and everything. it’s that kind of feeling where you just want to disappear and let no one bother you, even the people you love the most.

i don’t think i can justify how or why i feel this way, because to me, i don’t think i should feel this way at all (as in i have no reason to feel these things). like, why would you be tired of someone, you know?

and truth is, i absolutely hate the fact i feel this way. truly. it’s just something i cannot pinpoint a specific reason on, and i absolutely despise the fact that it’s that way. maybe because i just started my internship? or maybe my closest friends have been complaining? all our conversations have been like this for a while, so i consider it normal.

i’ve felt this way for quite a while i would say, but it’s only now that it’s gotten really bad for some weird reason. i absolutely hate feeling this way, but i don’t know how to stop these feelings from getting to me.

but yes, i just needed an outlet to release these feelings. thanks to everyone that replies and reads this whole vent :")

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Hello @saranghaeonlyyou

Welcome to Let’s Talk! Thank you for coming on to this platform and venting. I hear that you’re exhausted.

To answer your question, in short yes, it’s normal to feel exhausted and tired of everything. There could be a reason why you’re feeling this way, can be a sign that you’re overwhelmed or just plain burnt out especially when you’re juggling a lot emotionally, mentally, or even just physically.

However, the opposite is true too, sometimes there might not be a reason, it’s hard to explain and understand why we feel the way we do.

Regardless whether there is an explanation or not, I want to affirm you that your feelings are valid. Sometimes our feelings can cause confusion and we may feel guilty for feeling the way we feel but it just remind us we’re only human.

I hear that you feel it’s getting worse and maybe you might want to consider speaking to a professional or a trusted person to explore why you might feel this way. It doesn’t necessarily mean there’s something wrong with you but sometimes talking it out might provide us some clarity. If you’re not ready to talk to someone, journaling can be equally helpful.

I hope things do get better for you. Sometimes we need to be kind to ourselves and rest.

Do take care and if you’d like do give us an update, would love to hear from you again!

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U r overwhelmed. Take a break from everyone

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Hey, thank you for sharing all of this—it takes a lot of courage to be this honest, especially when you’re feeling overwhelmed and unsure of why.

That “tired of everything and everyone” feeling? It’s more common than you think, and it doesn’t make you a bad person or a bad friend. Sometimes, your mind and body are simply trying to tell you something—maybe that you’re burned out, emotionally overstimulated, or in need of some quiet space that you haven’t been able to claim yet. Even love doesn’t always protect us from feeling emotionally drained, especially when we’re constantly giving, listening, or managing changes like a new internship.

It’s okay not to have a concrete reason. Our feelings don’t always arrive with neat little labels. What you’re going through doesn’t need to be justified in order to be valid. And the fact that you’re aware, reflective, and seeking to understand yourself better? That says a lot about your strength and sensitivity.

Please don’t be too harsh on yourself. It’s okay to need space, even from the people you love. Wanting solitude doesn’t mean you love them any less—it just means you’re human, and you’re needing a little time to reconnect with yourself. Try giving yourself permission to rest without guilt.

It’s completely okay to take time for yourself and let people know—gently—that you need a little more space right now. You’re allowed to rest, to not be “on” all the time, even with people you care about deeply. Needing space doesn’t mean you’re abandoning anyone—it just means you’re listening to yourself, and that’s a form of care too.

You’re not alone, even when it feels like you want to be. And you don’t have to fix it all at once. One breath at a time is enough.

Sending warmth your way. You’re doing okay.

And if you ever need to vent again or just let it out, feel free to post here anytime! Honestly, letting everything out has helped me process things too—it really does make a difference :>

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Dear @saranghaeonlyyou

Thank you so much for sharing this. You’re incredibly brave for opening up, especially when it feels like your emotions don’t make sense to even yourself. I just want to say this first: you’re not alone, and nothing about what you’re feeling makes you a bad person or ungrateful or wrong.

That tiredness you described—the kind that makes you want to just disappear for a while—is something so many people feel but are too afraid to say out loud. The fact that you’ve noticed it and are talking about it here shows a lot of self-awareness and courage.

You don’t need to have a “valid” or dramatic reason to feel the way you feel. Feelings don’t always follow logic—they’re not something you have to earn or explain. Sometimes, even when everything seems “normal,” our emotional battery runs low. And when it keeps running low, we can start to feel irritable, exhausted, or even detached from the people we care most about. That doesn’t make you cold. It means you’re human, and possibly burnt out or overwhelmed, especially with starting something new like an internship.

Your friends’ constant venting might seem “normal,” but even normal things can become emotionally draining over time. Especially when you don’t feel like there’s space for your voice or your needs in those conversations.

I want you to know:

  • It’s okay to feel like you need space.
  • It’s okay to not want to talk to anyone, even people you love.
  • It’s okay to not know why you feel the way you do.

Sometimes, the best thing we can do is gently acknowledge those feelings, without trying to fix them right away. Maybe give yourself permission to rest—not just physically, but emotionally. Is there a space, even for a few minutes a day, where you don’t have to be “on” for anyone?

You don’t need to solve everything right now. You just need space to feel what you feel without shame. Sharing here is one such safe space.

So thank you for sharing. Remember that you always deserve gentleness and self compassion. Continue reaching out whenever you are ready to. :yellow_heart:

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hello @saranghaeonlyyou , to answer your question, yes it is normal to feel this way. We as humans can get burnt-out or overwhelmed even when there is “no good reason to feel this way”. Your emotions and feelings are definitely valid, and I think that it is reasonable for you to take a break from people or things that seem tiring for awhile. However, it is important to be able to bounce back after you feel rejuvenated ! Feel free to reach out here if you need to vent or to talk and navigate through your thoughts and feelings :slight_smile: we are happy to learn and grow together as humans!

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Hi there @saranghaeonlyyou ,

First of all, welcome to the community!

Thank you for sharing your feelings with us. It’s completely okay to feel the way you do, even if you can’t pinpoint a specific reason. Sometimes, life can get overwhelming, and it’s natural to feel tired or frustrated, even with the people we care about the most (like what @CaringBee has mentioned).

Starting a new internship and dealing with changes in your routine/environment can definitely contribute to these feelings. We can feel uncomfortable when faced with unfamiliarity, which may explain why you and your closest friends have been all complaining. It’s important to give yourself some grace and understand that it’s okay to feel this way, do not ever blame yourself. :grinning_face:

Whenever you are feeling overwhelmed, remember to take some time for yourself, even just a few minutes of quiet can help. Engaging in activities that you enjoy or finding a way to relax (e.g., going for a walk) can also make a difference.

Remember to take a step back from life and take care of yourself. You’re not alone in feeling this way, and it’s great that you reached out to share your thoughts. We’re here to support you!

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