I am so tired of listening and following my fathers rules I am so scared whenever he’s near me he can scold me for whatever he wants and my mother just finds more trouble for me I don’t trust anyone anymore. I’m also crashing out from the expectations in school that my parents give me. I feel unloved i feel so violent and its so hard to even wake up and get out of bed in the morning.. if I’m just suffering and feeling so empty and tired and sad everyday what’s the point of staying here..
Hello @LonelyShadow06 it sounds absolutely exhausting and frightening to live like this every day. Being scared at home, feeling constantly criticised, and carrying so many expectations would wear anyone down.
It makes sense that you feel tired, empty, and overwhelmed. None of this means you’re weak or ungrateful. It means you’ve been carrying too much for too long, mostly on your own.
You don’t have to go through this alone right now. You matter, even if it doesn’t feel that way, and what you’re feeling deserves care and support. If things ever feel like they’re getting too heavy, it might really help to talk to someone who can support you immediately, like a trusted adult or a school counsellor. You’ve been carrying so much, and it makes sense that you’re exhausted. You deserve support and kindness, even if it doesn’t feel that way right now.
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Dear user6003,
When things get tough, take a minute to pause. Feel the ground underneath your feet, feel the breath that is keeping your body alive. Just smile and give thanks for this moment,
“I am here. I am alive. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.”
If you can, go outdoors where there is nature. Feel the sun on your face, feel the wind on your skin, feel the earth underneath your feet. “I am here. I am alive. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.”
Even without changing your circumstances, if you simply allow yourselves to do all the above. To just be present, to feel yourself and nature. I promise you, things will feel different already.
Right now there is a lot of pain and suffering in the world. We all struggle with some pain in one form of another. That is the reason why your father speaks to you the way he does, the way your mother responds to you the way she does. Whatever pain they are experiencing in their life, they are unaware and passing their pain to you, when they feel sad, frustrated, scared, angry or disappointed.
You don’t have to accept the pain they are giving you, and you don’t have to do this alone. When you are hurting and feel alone, reach out and talk to someone. We are here with you. If you are between the ages of 16 to 30yo, reach out to the CHAT community:
CHAT
The Community Health Assessment Team (CHAT) provides confidential mental health checks for young persons between 16 and 30 years old, who are currently living in Singapore. They operate CHAT hub, a mental health centre located at *SCAPE and maintains an online presence through their website and webchat.
6493 6500
6493 6501
Or the TOUCH Community Services – TOUCHline
Emotional support and practical advice are rendered through this youth helpline
1800 377 2252
If you feel anger, it is also common to feel the desire to hurt yourself or others. All emotions are a message for us. And anger carries the message that “your boundaries are crossed, and you need to do something about it”. But anger being an active emotion is also a very destructive emotion.
If you keep anger in, it destroys you from the inside, through things you say to yourself, and things you do to yourself. But if you throw out anger, it hurts others, through our words and actions.
Anger is valid, but find a way to express that anger and move it out of your body safely.
If you are open, I’d like to invite you to play a song that allows you to stamp, to dance and to shout. Move that anger out of your body, once you feel the anger move out of your body. Ground yourself, feel your feet on the floor and breathe. And whatever emotions that remain after the anger. Let it rise, and meet you. Feel it and let it go. This is how we heal with emotions, feel and let go. Feel and let go. Think of the wave, it rises and falls.
Lastly, I only had the opportunity to know one aspect of you, the struggles that you are experiencing. And I would love to know more about you, what do you love, what do you enjoy doing, what is the hope you have for the world and for yourself?
Let’s keep going together, even when the going gets tough. Because one day, we will meet the right people and environment.
People that will see us for who we are, who will celebrate us for who we are.
I found my people, and I hope that you will find yours too,
Seektruth
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Hi @LonelyShadow06,
I can hear how much anger and frustration you’re carrying right now. Losing something you love, like your video games, can feel like a huge part of your joy has been taken away, and it makes sense that you’d feel bored and upset afterward. On top of that, when people hurt you, it’s natural to feel a surge of anger and want to lash out. Those feelings are valid, and it shows just how deeply you care about the things that bring you happiness and how much you’ve been affected by others’ actions.
At the same time, threatening to kill or harm someone is extremely serious. It’s not just “a bit violent”. Causing the death of a person is a dangerous action that could have real consequences for you and others.
Acting on those feelings would be a serious offense and could cause irreversible harm. It’s important to recognize that while anger is normal, violence is not a safe or healthy way to deal with it. Reconsider those thoughts and think about safer outlets for your frustration, like talking to someone you trust, finding new hobbies, or expressing your feelings in creative ways. You deserve to feel better without putting yourself or others at risk.
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actually I don’t rlly want to kill or hurt anyone I just want to feel happiness and be loved..
hello, thank you for sharing. from what I understand, you are overwhelemed and it is okay to be stressed at times, and perhaps taking a break such as going out in the nature and can help us to feel more refreshed so that we can refocus on our tasks at hand. and if you are open to sharing your challenges, perhaps you can use mindline’s resources as you don’t deserve to handle it alone <3 rooting for you op 
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thx for understanding me
Hi user6003,
When an event happens and emotions arise, if we don’t process and let it go. The emotions get stuck inside of us and accumulates, and explodes when we get triggered or when we can no longer hold it in.
If you have been dealing with all these thoughts and feelings on your own, all these time. It can feel overwhelming, and sometimes feels like the only option is to hurt yourself or others.
Maybe it is time to stop holding all these on your own, and let someone else hold these emotions for you, for a change. It is easier when you have someone there with you, talk to a counsellor on the toll-free helpline from Touchline at 1800-377-2252 (Mon-Fri: 0900 to 1800) or consider a text-based counselling service by CHAT: https://www.imh.com.sg/chat/Pages/default.aspx/
Either way, if happiness and love is what you seek, then find the path that takes you there. Because momentary pain sometimes makes us do things that take away love and happiness.
Reach out and and don’t walk this alone,
Seektruth
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tysm for ur support
okay thanks I will try that when I find enough courage
You do have courage.
You just need to let love in, and at the right time, forgiveness.
Let the emotions inside you move, through dance, songs or even poetry. Anything that allows your emotions to move safely out of you.
Take the time to heal, and find your people. People who see you and celebrate you. We are all looking for each other.
Find your purpose, your gift, your why of being here.
I see you.
And I trust you will arrive at where you need to be,
Seektruth
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thanks I hope I will find my purpose one day
I hope you do bud. Trust me, things will get better soon. I feel the same with you. My father used to have anger issues, and if I done something wrong (Etc. Losing a book/ bottle) he would usually beat me up. But eventually he changed. I hope things get better for you soon. And lastly, keep on going, and never give up.
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thanks for the encouragement