Hi, For the past month I have noticed myself having issues with myself. I used to be a happier version of myself where i enjoy going to school, i enjoy going to the gym, i enjoy going out alone and just chill and shop by myself and i also love to socialize around. But recently ive noticed a big change in myself where i kept getting negative thoughts almost everyday and I have not been going to the gym. Everytime i am free i spent my day doing nothing and i cry most of the time for no complete reason.
I get disturbing thoughts and I cant seem to forgive myself for it. I have been feeling like the lowest state for a month.
This has been a challenge for me. I am not excited of things anymore even though there are great things happening for me in the next few months. I also tend to want to be alone instead of socializing.
Before i get all these negative and disturbing thoughts, I was trying to go on dates. And it all did not worked out so i was wondering if this has to do with my past dating. But i have no feelings towards it.
Is there a way to stop thinking negatively and stop overthinking too much. I am going insane
Thank you for taking the time to share with us on this platform about your feelings and thoughts, and Iām truly sorry to hear that youāve been going through such a challenging time. It takes courage to open up about these feelings, and Iām here to support you.
I want to affirm your efforts of wanting to work on yourself, and that youāve recognized these changes in yourself. Itās actually quite common to have thoughts about ourselves, wondering if we are āokayā or not. Iām also wondering, if there was a specific event or situation that you think might have triggered these negative thoughts and emotions, or has it felt like a gradual change over time? (i.e. from the state of enjoying things to the sudden ābig changeā where you get negative thoughts and cry)
Have you considered reaching out to friends, family, or a professional to talk about what youāre going through? Sharing your feelings with someone you trust can be a helpful first step. I can imagine it might feel challenging to reach out to a professional, but there are some amazing online options that might feel less intimidating, I would encourage you to give them a try
In the meantime, you could also try incorporating self-care activities into your daily routine, such as relaxation exercises, mindfulness, or engaging in hobbies that used to bring you joy. Sometimes, taking small steps towards self-compassion and self-care can make a significant difference. When you try out these activities, initially there might be a lot of āpushbackā - youāll feel bored, tired or lack motivation but eventually when you keep on going, youāll find your groove again and perhaps find your community too.
I would also like to suggest a few helpful resources which you may benefit from, especially when those negative challenging thoughts come to your mind:
Last but not least, I highly encourage you to speak to a mental health professional - they can provide you with a safe space to process your thoughts further, and you donāt have to go through this alone, and there is hope for improvement.
Please do keep us updated on how youāre coping and what youāve decided to do - weād like to continue to support you here on this platform.
Although I am still in school, I am not sure whether I should ask my parents or my teachers to take a look and see what is wrong with me.
I have overwhelming thoughts that take over, usually of all the embarrassing things I did. For example, my mind could get taken over by a small matter like me spilling juice all over the dining table. I donāt understand what could be wrong with me. My friends say I have mild autism or OCD or maybe bothā¦
Whenever I have intrusive thoughts, I start doing embarrassing things like asking my friends the weirdest questions like āhey, why are chimpanzees called chimpanzees?ā And my friends would look at me like they are wondering whether something is wrong.
I also feel addicted to somethingā¦ pulling my lashes out. It has been already going on for more than 3 years. I donāt know, is it because of stress? Well, at first it was but now i have no idea. Only my younger sister knows about this, everyone else just thinks I pluck them out for fun, but that could be true, I donāt know anymore.
My friends say I should see a psychologist to get help, I made up an excuse that my parents would be scared that it will cost us money, but deep down, I think it is because I am too afraid to speak outā¦
I wonder whether there is a way to stop all this, it even causes me to loose interest in things I used to love like origami and online games, or is it the result of me growing up?
therapy is for everyone. we all have issues. whether we want to work on it or not is a different matter. therapy helps you explore those issues.
suicide. attempt.
thats an issueyou need to explore. why? coz youve done it over and over again. the very definition of insanity is doing the same things over and over again expecting different results.
dont read this wrong. im not asking you to succeed in your attempts. im merely asking you to explore why the attempts are occuring.
i have had attempts myself. even now, contemplating it. but ask yourself this, are you so sure that whatever lies beyond is gonna be easier? why not answer those questions now when its easier and you have some sense of control.
I think it depends on whether you are coping or not. Not everyone is ready to open up for therapy, some need more time. But if you start to think that you cannot cope already then itās best to seek professional help immediately.
I donāt know if I need help or not or am I okay. Sometimes I find myself going crazy I went to a therapist before but she did not really help. My parents are not very mean but I find them too stressful for me to manage.its not in terms of studies but actually about my life, all my friends can go out while Iām suppose to stay at home. It is still after my exams my father even told me that I was the problem when I tell him I didnāt understand what was his question about. I was even called a dumb ā ā ā my mother even said I made her look like a monster and she hate my friends and she do not really feel comfortable with me going out with them. I have beeen bottling up my emotions for so long idk what to do anymore and Iām writing , she is still scolding while I cry. I just told her frankly Iām not in the mood to do my passport she starts scolding and say she will deduct 70 dollars from my weekly income I get to buy food. Iām also only allowed to cry in the toilet my father told me to get out of his face since he doesnāt want to see me in a crying stateā¦there is a lot of things that I cannot stand but that is too much to sayā¦. Plus she still told me to tell my friends I cannot go out with them because Iām going out with her! Uk how much that hurts to actually think negatively about my friends?
Iām really sorry youāre going through such a tough time. It sounds incredibly overwhelming, especially when it feels like the people who are supposed to support you are making things harder. Itās okay to feel the way you do, and itās important to take care of yourself, even when everything seems heavy. Here are some things you could try:
Acknowledge your emotions: Itās okay to feel sad, frustrated, or hurt by how youāre being treated. Bottling up your feelings can make things worse over time. Maybe find a private, safe place where you can release your emotions without feeling judged. Writing, drawing, or even venting to a close friend can help.
Set boundaries when you can: If your parents are saying things that hurt you, itās okay to respectfully express that their words or actions affect you. If itās too hard to communicate directly, you might try writing them a letter or text that explains how their actions make you feel without turning it into an argument.
Reach out for support: If therapy didnāt work for you before, maybe consider looking for a different therapist or counselor. Sometimes it takes a while to find the right fit. In the meantime, is there a trusted adult, sibling, or teacher you can talk to? Sometimes just having someone listen makes a big difference.
Please donāt be afraid to seek help again. You deserve to be supported and heard.
