I have anger issues since i was about the age of 7. I always have problems controlling my anger and I need help controlling it. My problem is getting out of hand and I have been using violence to control myself such as throwing tables and chairs and punching walls and what not. So advise me on what I should do and what is the name of my issue. Do I need professional help?
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Hey there @user9763, firstly, I want to commend you for recognising this recurring pattern in your behaviour and seeking advice to stop the cycle. It is definitely not easy doing so. I can empathise with you as I was a very angry child myself, due to the environment I grew up in. I would often pinch or hit people when mad, and the bottom line was that I mirrored the actions of those around me when I felt out of control with my emotions. I would say that unlearning these habits happened over time, as I realised that physical violence (towards others or myself) never solved anything. Experiencing such intense bursts of anger can stem from underlying traumas, and improvement is definitely possible with patience and learning self-regulation. When youâre in a calm mood, you might want to think about/jot down what your main triggers are, and what causes you to act in such a manner. More immediate solutions that may help when youâre already mad include leaving the situation or distracting yourself. This may be counterintuitive 
, but I distract myself by listening to heavy rock/metal music. The âheavyâ sounds act as a form of let out for my emotions and distract me from my anger. At the end of the day, you know yourself best, and if you think that professional guidance would better suit your needs, I urge you to seek help! Professionals can guide you to understand your emotions and redirect your behaviours in a more professional manner. Take care 
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Hey @user9763,
From what you have described about "throwing tables and chairs and punching walls.â, it didnât sound like anger itself is the problem, but more that coping with anger has been really tough.
Itâs a good start that youâve recognised it and even called it out here, thatâs the first step in addressing it. We can work together on how you might cope in a healthier, more helpful way.
Can you recall a recent situation when it happened? what was going through your mind right before you reacted? We can start by slowing down and linking situation â thoughts â feelings â actions. that way you can see how the chain builds.
If you can step back a bit, you also shared that you use action like throwing chairs, punching walls ⊠to manage the feelings. Iâm curious, when you did that, how did it actually help you? Did it release pressure? or did it feel like fighting against something unfair? or maybe it was the only way your body knew to express what was inside.
Understanding what those actions meant for you is important, because once you can name it, we can start looking at new ways to release the same energy without hurting yourself or risking others.
The fact youâre reaching out already shows you are seeking a solution and thatâs a strong step forward. When you are ready and feel like responding to the questions, we can work out what helps?
If at any point you donât feel safe writing about it here, you can call Mindline at 1771 (or WhatsApp this link) to chat with a counsellor right away.
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This sounds very Al-generated. The phrasing is textbook. The empathy is template. And the tone stays unnaturally even throughout. Real human responses show emotional variation, not this perfect CBT-handbook structure. I believe this individual has been flagged for AI generated replies previously? How come Mindline hasnât done anything about this?
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Thank you for flagging this out, agree 100 percent 
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#DownWithAI #NoAICounsellors
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