Hi all,
My wife is pregnant, but she is facing with a few symptoms such as heart burn, ear block, lower abdomen pain etc, especially with the ear blocks issue, she mentioned that it is a torture to her as it is disrupting her daily life. She has went to see specialist and there is nothing wrong bring observed.
She currently felt that no one is supporting her emotionally and physically as everyone around her asked her to endure. She thinking that we are unable to feel what is she is going through now.
After seeing every specialist, every doctors just mentioned that everything is fine, she felt lost and I felt that she is starting to have a breakdown. I have asked her to consult a psychiatrist together but she just brush off that she is not having any problem.
Is there any help that I can rendered to my wife if she still do not feel there is support? I have accompanied her to all the gynae checkup as well as keeping myself up-to-date with her pregnancy.
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Hi, user1514,
I hear your worries about your pregnant wife who seems to be bothered intensely by a number of debilitating symptoms, especially the “ear block issue”. Although the specialists and gynae thought there was nothing to be worried about, she probably felt her discomfort was dismissed and not understood. In addition to all her discomfort, hearing advices from relatives/friends to tell her to endure might probably have intensified her distress.
At this juncture, doctors have probably ruled out any severe medical conditions. Thus the reasons for her experiencing so much discomfort could be due to the hormones production during this period of time, or it could be due to some psychological reasons (conscious/unconscious), or possibly all of the above.
In general, unhelpful thoughts/beliefs (conscious or unconscious) can have impacts on a person’s emotions. For pregnant women, the hormones in the body could cause an amplifying effect on the unhelpful thoughts/feelings, thus any physical/mental discomfort experienced can lead to an unbearable state. Thus talking to someone who could help to explore her concerns/worries might help her to alleviate the symptoms. Seeing a psychiatrist, who is a medical doctor that specialised in treating psychiatric/mental disorders, may bring about the stigma she has in her mind. However, talking to a counsellor or a psychotherapist may be better, as these two professionals help clients to work through their difficult emotions/body sensations which the clients might not even know the cause. You can try to do some research online to understand more about counselling, and this may give you more insights to the mental support that you wife could get during this time.
Meanwhile, showing empathy and being there for her without judgment is probably the best support she needs from her family. If she is not resisting to do exercise, you may want to explore with her on signing up for yoga classes for pregnant woman as it might help her to relax her mind better.
Take care and hope she will feel better soon.