Hi @user2510,
Hope that you are feeling better after the rant. 
From what you have just described, the emotional strain you’re under and the frustration you’re feeling is a struggle to cope with, especially to confront your husband about something that keeps coming up without any resolution. Feeling trapped between wanting emotional security and feeling insecure and unwanted, which can be incredibly overwhelming. Pregnancy is a vulnerable time, and it makes sense that your emotions are heightened and you’re looking for reassurance.
It’s clear that the fear you’re carrying, not only about your relationship but also about your self-worth and your future, is difficult to carry around day in and day out.
From what I’m hearing, it seems like the actions of your husband are inconsistent with your emotional needs. He reassures you but doesn’t follow through, leaving you with self-doubt and emotional confusion. You also mentioned that the pregnancy has made your insecurities worse, especially in feeling unwanted and not good enough.
It sounds like you’re constantly trying to make sense of the situation—questioning if you should confront your husband again or if you should just keep going in a relationship where you don’t feel valued. This cycle of anxiety and overthinking is really draining, and I understand why it would make you feel stuck.
First and foremost, I want to acknowledge that your feelings are valid. It’s completely normal to feel anxious and insecure during pregnancy, but it’s also important to feel heard and seen by those close to you. You deserve to have your concerns addressed, especially by your husband, as your emotional needs need attention.
Having said that, one of your strengths is that you recognise your feelings and acknowledge the need for change. You’ve also expressed a desire to understand your emotional triggers—such as your husband’s actions and your own insecurities—so that you can make a more informed decision. This awareness of what you are experiencing emotionally will be key in building a plan for your well-being and relationship with your husband.
I want to encourage you to gently explore what actions you can take that will help you feel emotionally safe. You don’t have to figure everything out right now, but perhaps you can start by identifying one small action—whether it’s seeking a couple’s therapy session or finding time for self-care that boosts your confidence.
It’s also important to keep in mind that improvements in relationships and emotional patterns take time. Each step you take—whether it’s having a hard conversation with your husband or learning to be kinder to yourself—will eventually help you build the emotional security you need. During this time, you deserve to feel heard, seen, and valued, and that is a powerful step in reclaiming your emotional balance.
Final Thought: You are already showing remarkable strength by opening up and seeking support. Continue to attend to your emotional needs as you navigate this complex situation. You don’t have to handle it all at once—small, consistent steps will guide you toward healing. You’re doing your best, and that’s enough.