Hello! I am new here and would like to ask for some help for my partner and myself. Here is a brief summary of my situation.
I have a partner who had past childhood traumas and and a couple of phobias. I have been noticing that my partner has been having anxiety for a long time time and I feel currently it seems to be getting worse. My partner always feels empty, sad, sometimes says don’t want to live, scared of working with others and cries frequently. We have been through two failed ivf and it seems to be taking a toll on my partner. My partner has never been diagnosed with anything before by a professional and I have tried encouraging my partner to seek professional help and every time I was declined. I am at a lost on how to help my partner and this situation is starting to affect me. I have been trying to be a pillar for my partner to lean on but I feel like it is starting to crumble down.
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Hi user 1469
Thank you for sharing your experiences. I’m sad to hear about your partner’s struggles and the impact on your relationship. It’s a great first step that you’re seeking help. Your partner is courageous, just like you are, so pls let her know how strong she is to have endured so much in her life. Assure her you are there by her side.
It may be helpful to speak to the IVF doctor about her struggles and seek guidance on how to proceed to get her the support she needs. My experience is that your partner may be more receptive to the doctor referring her to a mental health specialist as a follow up care.
While you care for her, you as the caregiver also need to take care of yourself too. Please self care, by exercising, eating well, and relaxing regularly. Encourage your partner to join you. Affirm her efforts.
Please know that what you are going through is fully understandable and your feelings of loss and uncertainty valid. Start taking small steps to move forward and before you know it there will be progress. 