my memory is apparently very good, but its too good to a point its bad. sometimes i randomly remember bad memories, like how my mom argued with me in a clinic in front of people or certain memories that involve rejection. memorable events can be too vivid for me, but most often its the bad memories. i always try to push them away but it keeps coming back. I also tried accepting it to move on but every time I always see it as a bad memory and I do cry sometimes out of nowhere when the memory is genuinely very bad
is there a way to stop having negative thoughts about these bad memories ?
Hey @undying_sun, thank you for sharing your experience. I think this is something that’s very relatable to a lot of people. Usually, these “random” recollections can be because of cues (e.g., places, sounds, people) in the environment that make our brains relate it to past bad memories. Would you say that the memory you mentioned about your mother arguing with you pops-up every time you walk past/are in a clinic? I hear that you have tried pushing these thoughts away/tried to accept them and understand that this has not been the most helpful for you. From what I know, some strategies to overcome this can be to re-visit these memories (with caution) when you are in a calm state of mind. You can re-visit these memories with an open mind, potentially reframing your thoughts to recognise that these bad memories mentally affected you deeply, and allow yourself to feel those emotions. Personally, I recognised that when I experienced something similar, it was due to the fact that I did not let myself feel the negative emotions, and bottled them up, causing rumination. Of course, I would recommend visiting a professional like a therapist for more targeted therapies, since these memory recollections are debilitating and can be hard to manage at times. Please take care! Wishing you the best 
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Hey @undying_sun ,
Thank you for sharing your struggles here. I hear that you have been affected by memories of the past that are unpleasant to you, and some of these memories do make you cry at times. That sounds difficult, especially if it was something that hurt you in the past. It’s also understandable that you feel that such memories are bad, as they may have hurt you before. Having negative thoughts about it could be your mind’s way of protecting you from them.
I think one way you could go about it is to let yourself feel the emotions that comes when the memory comes. If you need to cry, go ahead! It’s alright to do so. Afterwards, when you’re in a safe space, maybe you could try reflecting why such a memory is viewed as bad in your mind. For example, could it be due to how you were treated in that situation? Or was it how you see yourself? Afterwards, you could try to see this in another perspective. Of course, try these if you feel comfortable to. If these memories feel too much to handle, seeking professional could be a better way to help you make sense of them.
Hope this helps and know we’re here for you 
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