Im currently 18 turning 19. I’m honestly trying to be ok with being alone. I have tried time and time again to be ok with myself. Usually, after events, I want to be with people. But the problem is that sometimes they want their own time. To themselves. I dont know them well enough and that rly sucks. Events are usually things i go for. Whether it be a hangout, or after a show or something.
Like I went for a SYT show because my friends were in it. I bumped into a few mutuals and old friends of mine, and I thought of joining them. Thing is that they feel awkward cus im 3rd wheeling. I ended up leaving them be and going home.
I think my problem is just this need to be around people all the time. Its the need to have more time with them.
I remember myself just thinking that i was so alone, and friends were unavailable to be with me, and I rly miss hanging with them. I was at a playground near my house when I was talking to people there who were in their early 20s. I ended up crashing out and crying because that I miss them a lot. You can say that they might have time in the future but they are from international schools and they have graduated and are going overseas. So i was scared of not having the time with them anymore.
The new people i talked to at the playground told me that this was their 2nd hangout for the year. It was a duo who meets-up twice a year. This is their first i think. They told me that its the quality you spend over quantity.
Since then, i am friends with them, and i try telling myself that even though i didnt spend more time with my friends, you take back the quality over the quantity of how long you spend and how many times you hangout with them. But its still not enough to keep me going. And its just hard.
To add on, I tried hanging with my friends recently, who have graduated alrdy yesterday, and they needed their time with their mates. Its bc that they spent more time together than me. And i understand. One of my friends from that group, wanted to take a break from me and friendship because that i think i involuntarily crossed a boundary, and the way i was maintaining our friendship was unhealthy. I hope its not for long when it comes to the break. And she said that i think of her as a friend more than what she thinks of me.
Also, to add on, im actually diagnosed with anxiety, adhd and autism. So its rly hard for me to comprehend sometimes.
Anyways, I’m trying to be ok with being by myself, prioritizing the quality over how long and how many times you hang with someone. Including how many people you are with. But its still not enough to be on with being alone ig idk. And taking a break from a friend i treasure a lot is rly upsetting.
Fml