I felt stressed out. I was asked to leave from my job in Oct’25 while serving notice, my late mum diagnosed with stage 4 liver cancer and I co-caregiving with my siblings to take care of her for about 5 months and she passed on in Mar’26.
After my mum’s passing, my siblings no longer wants to take care of dad, throwing everything to handle and I still looking for a job to rebuild my life and finances.. I wanted to hire helper but my siblings objected it. I’m lady and unable to talk personal hygiene and many things to a 70 years old man. 
The reality hurts. When you’re not financial stability, all family members looks down on you. The caregiving really tough as I felt guilty for not taking good care of him.
Hey @resilientmoon9043, thank you for trusting this space with this!
You’ve been carrying so much…losing your job, caring for your mum during her final months, grieving her passing and now finding yourself alone in caring for your dad, all while trying to rebuild your life and finances! That’s a huge amount for anyone to hold separately, and you’re having to cope with all of them at once, which can be extremely overwhelming 
I’d like to let you know that whatever you’re feeling, the stress, guilt, hurt from how your family has treated you and all, makes complete sense given everything you’ve been through. Guilt is common…but it doesn’t mean you haven’t been doing enough, okay? From what you’ve shared, it really seems like you’ve given a great deal of yourself, even when you had very little left to give
The situation with your dad sounds genuinely difficult, esp given the practical challenges around personal hygiene care. Your concern about that is completely valid! It isn’t a small thing!
I’m really curious about what your support system looks like right now! Is there anyone in your life you feel you can lean on? And how have you been taking care of yourself in the midst of all this?
If you’d like to speak to someone over the phone, you can always reach out to National Mindline 1771, okay? You can call them at 1771/whatsapp them at 66691771. They are available 24/7 
I got help from FSC. I get all kind of help from all agencies.