Hi, I have been unwell a lot. My mum had been frustrated with me and imposing responsibility on me. Doctor agreed with my mum. There are supportive people in my life. Why didn’t I want to work?
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Hi @celineongjy, thank you for writing in. To understand your situation better, I have a few questions:
- When you mentioned about feeling unwell, what are the symptoms that you’re currently experiencing? And do you feel that these symptoms are causing your mum to feel frustrated?
- When was the last time you were employed? And if so, what were the challenges you faced?
You’re not alone in this, and Let’s Talk is here to support you. 
Best regards,
HanSolo2000
Befriender | let’s talk by Mindline
I had fever, flu, cough and diarrhoea. I was employed but I had transfer of departments a lot. I had some complaints too. I am still working full time
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Hi Celine,
Thanks for your reply. I hear you; being transferred around different departments can be quite overwhelming.
May I also ask what was the conversation between you, your doctor and your mum? And was there something about this conversation that was causing you distress?
Perhaps I can have a better understanding of your situation so that we can work on the next steps. 
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Hi @celineonjy,
Thank you for opening up. It sounds like you’ve been carrying a lot—being physically unwell, staying committed to work, and feeling the weight of your mum’s frustration and the doctor’s agreement with her. That’s a heavy mix to hold.
You asked a very powerful question: “Why didn’t I want to work?” Sometimes when we’re constantly running, especially through sickness or department changes, our body and mind naturally start to resist—not out of laziness, but from deep exhaustion or unmet emotional needs.
I wonder… when your mum and doctor spoke, did you feel like your own voice was lost in the middle? Like everyone’s opinions were louder than how you truly felt inside?
It’s okay to not have clarity right now. What matters is that you’ve reached out—and that’s a brave start. You’re still working, and that shows your strength, even if others may not always see the toll it’s taking on you.
If it’s alright, would you like to share what was going through your heart when your mum and doctor talked about you? Sometimes our body says “slow down” even if our mind tells us to keep going.
We’re here to hold space for you.
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I was like I wanted time to recover from my illness although it’s slow. I had infection previously and food poisoning. I have been on mc for several days. I could remember 1 week and plus this week so 2 week plus
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Hey @celineongjy,
Thanks for sharing that. It really makes sense that after going through infection and food poisoning, your body just needs time—sometimes more than what others might expect. It’s not just about ticking off recovery days, but about actually feeling like yourself again.
Taking MC for two weeks isn’t something anyone does lightly, especially when you’re still juggling work. It shows you’ve been trying to cope, even while feeling unwell. Please don’t feel like you have to justify your recovery speed to anyone—it’s okay to take the time your body and mind need.
If it’s alright to ask—have you been able to rest without feeling too much pressure from others during this time?
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I would say not really. There have been a lot of tensions with my mum everyday that I would like to walk away from
Hi @celineongjy ,
thanks for having such courage to share, would you be ready to share some of these tensions so that you it will be lighter for you?
My mum and dad has high expectations of me. They often told me off about my finances, told me off about my behaviour and my mum scolded me when I come home from work. It got so bad that I left home twice to stay in a hotel
Hi Celine,
Thank you for sharing this with us. To be honest, I am quite concerned about your situation at home. If you do feel that your safety at home is threatened, I would encourage you to call the National Anti-Violence Helpline at 1800-777-0000.
You may also approach your nearest Family Service Centre through this directory (MSF | Directories).
With regards to support for your mental well-being, you may approach your nearest Community Intervention Team (SupportGoWhere) or Community Outreach Team (SupportGoWhere) for support.
Best regards,
HanSolo2000
Befriender | let’s talk by mindline
Hey @celineongjy,
Thanks for sharing that. Sounds like things at home have been really tough lately. When you’re already tired from work and still trying to recover, having to deal with constant scolding or criticism from your parents must feel exhausting.
Leaving home twice to stay in a hotel… that says a lot about how heavy everything has been. Sometimes, when people around us don’t realise how much pressure we’re under, it can feel like we have no choice but to step away just to breathe.
You’ve been trying your best—even while being unwell—and it’s okay to need space from all the noise. No one really sees what you go through behind closed doors, but I just want you to know… I hear you.
If you feel comfortable, would you want to talk about how those hotel stays made you feel? Was there a bit of relief, or did it just bring more questions? Either way, we’re here.
Take your time, okay?
Thank you for looking out for me. Goodnight! Have a good week
A bit questions and relief. I do not have enough money once and got reported. My dad has to settle and I paid him back
I hear you. It sounds like that time brought up both relief and a lot of questions—maybe even guilt or pressure. Not having enough money and getting reported… that must’ve felt scary and maybe even shameful, especially with your dad needing to step in.
But the fact that you paid him back shows a lot. It says you take responsibility, even under stress. That’s not something small—it takes strength.
Sometimes we go through things like this and carry it quietly, but you’re not alone here. If there’s a part of that experience that still weighs on you, I’m here to listen.
No judgment—just space for you.
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Hi Celine,
You’re welcome! Do let us know if there’s anything else we can do to get the support you need.
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Ok Noted. I will let you know
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