Gosh, I think I’ll go insane if I keep trying to guess what my parents think about me. One time they sound as if they can bring the whole world under my footsteps. For example, they don’t hesitate to buy me expensive laptops and tablets to assist my studies.
Another time, they sound like a miser. This happens when I reinstate that my gran’s addiction to her devices affects my sleep which could be controlled if they feedback to my grandma.
I don’t want to be yapping about my problems, but this has left me so confused.
Hi OP,
Sorry to hear that you’re having trouble understanding your parents. Sometimes, parents can be confusing, and I’ve had my fair share of being annoyed with my mum with her decisions and actions. Perhaps you can directly ask your parents why they are acting in such a way. Hopefully your grandma can improve on her device addiction so you can get better sleep.
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Have u considered staying w other frens or if yr uni has residential hall? Rather than often putting up with yr grandma and stuff
The thing is I study in SIM… I really wanted to stay in a hall when I graduated from poly. But my parents are blaming me for my poor academic performance which forced me to reach this situation. And then I usually get offended by the fact that they are soooo self-centred.
The best part is… they ask me to go for internships when they have already booked for a month of vacation overseas. The best part is… my father works 2 weeks during the trip. 
Most internships for uni students demand at least 3 months of commitment from may to august.
I really don’t want to explore the idea of doing an internship from home because of their inconsiderate behaviour. Despite that, I managed to do two job simulations last year, which gained recognition from people I know through LinkedIn. But the thing is that’s not gonna be enough right?
Last year, I tried to study from home. But this year, I make it a point to travel to and from my school to study for my exams, even if it’s just for 3hrs. I explored studying in the public library, but, I feel studying at school has more perks such as access to printing services, food options along with the opportunity to group study with friends.
That’s when I get deeply disturbed by the fact that I cannot study from home. They were even into searching for accommodation near my school after I enrolled in SIM!
Plus I have explored @douggydoug ‘s idea. I have been explaining since 2020 to be exact. The more I reinstate my discomfort, the more they are negotiating my health with their comfort. Typical gaslighting…
I feel they just wanna be stuck in their delusion that the world needs their intervention all the time.
Hi lovely, oih i was also at Sim. For me was coz my A levs crashed due to being sick. I still resent the Nus elitists.
Wait, why yr parents choose internships for u? That sucks. U should be able to decide where and what to do on yr own.
U dun have to go with the fam if u dun wanto. My fogey was grumb abt cost more money when i was considering gg overseas for uni. Quite diff i guess , the reactions. U said they buy u exp.equipments – wahh.
I wish mine wouldn be so stingy 
Now im working i can buy anything i need. Sorry for yr predicament , have u talked to any counselors for suppt and options?
Like my couns has been encouraging me to try to apply for Bto, indep. Makes me have anxiety, im not sure how ready am i yet. Maybe some Fsc or counselor can help u?
Thanks for your concern @Fenrispro . More than a counsellor, I just need a space to vent out. My family is just blaming me for their actions
Ok hope things getting better, and sometimes reddit have advice too