Hi everyone! My heart has been feeling rather bothered recently, so I just wanted to confide in someone.
You might have come across my very first post titled “Too many elephants in the room” . This is pretty much a follow up.
I’m in uni, I’m kept busy by studying a degree programme but I still feel rather empty. To those who have read my previous posts, you’d pretty much know that I feel emotionally unsupported at home than any other place. The fun fact is that even strangers can empathise with my plight than those at “home”.
I am self-assured, life is awesome, as I have people outside who validate my concerns and problems, who try their very best to help me out and most importantly do not infantilise me.
But it just feels more expensive to stay at home than in any other place. I’m not exaggerating when I say I’d feel safer in Antartica with a lonely polar bear…
Just wanted to vent out my disgust, I guess I feel much better now. 
Thanks!
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Hi @lovelychange, it’s really heartwarming to see that you’re in a better place now, surrounded by people who understand you. Bouncing back from tough challenges is not easy, so don’t shortchange yourself for pushing through.
You’ve mentioned feeling rather empty despite being busy with your degree programme. With the boundless opportunities in today’s world, finding something that truly resonates with you can take time. Continue exploring different things, and I’m sure you’ll find your own meaning in the near future! Jiayou! 
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Hi, I just wanted to give a follow up.
So, my family members are behaving like unpaid “consultants”, suggesting rather unfeasible solutions to my problems. I really cannot afford to dodge them consistently. Is there any way to avoid “confronting” them?
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what kind of problems? it sucks to have unwanted advice. probably u need to decide which battles need to defend against, if its worth it coz takes energy to confront
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Well, the biggest problem I’m facing is finding a way to study. I have faced all sorts of hindrances, from needing to entertain relatives to accommodating to my grandma’s device usage patterns. So, basically when I bring the problem of not being able to study from home, they’ll be like , “why don’t you study in the library?”
I did that for my years in poly, especially during the pandemic. But now, I just feel too tired from commuting here and there. Studying from school is rather unfeasible cos, school is way far from home. So I have to plan my time for commute. The public library is close by, but once again, commuting from school to library is a problem.Previously, my poly was close to the public library, so I could spend longer durations in the library. However, it’s not possible anymore.
Even when it comes to my sleep, I have to accommodate to my family’s sleep schedule so that “I won’t be disturbed” by them. So I technically have to sleep in early, wake up early. But what makes it difficult is that, I’m a night owl not an early bird…
Huh, I want to “act blessed” but the problems my family is bringing up just makes that rather difficult.
Now u are in uni? Unless smu or sim, don’t they have dorms? Like can stay in. Nlb is quite widely spread, dun have a nearer option for shorter dist to yr school? I don’t know much as i was at sim, clementi… hm yea quite far for me too.
I took buses so along the way sleep. Im neither early nor night owl, lately bro play games unt quite late, he nev plug earpiece. Luckily i can still sleep somehow.
Its hard when family dun compromise or accomodate … gd luck
Hi @lovelychange, seems like you’re finding a conducive way to study. You’ve shared that you have tried thinking of solutions, such as studying at school or the library, but they aren’t exactly ideal. Perhaps you can try to work out a compromise with your family – you can study in the library for some days (eg. weekdays) and then at home for other days (eg. weekends), where they agree not to interrupt you. Alternatively, you can negotiate the hours when you will be studying and ask them not to disturb you. However, remember that for there to be a compromise, both sides have to give in, so be prepared to accept certain boundaries that your family may draw, too. Good luck! And feel free to reach out if anything!
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